Things you should never do while dating an African girl

A successful relationship is highly dependent on the things you do and the things you don’t. There are things you must do and things you must not do in other to keep a strong relationship. Generally like I said before in other articles, it is very complicated to understand women or have a clue about what they want. Sometimes a woman’s temporary mood is enough for her to make a decision that will last long.

Sometimes the things you think might be the best will turn out to be the worst. For women everything matters no matter how small they seem. Recently a Spanish friend of mine from New York City called me and was complaining about not really understanding an African girl he fell in love with. After speaking with him for a couple of hours I understood that it was lack of understanding. It is true that women globally has a lot in common no matter their race, tribe, country or background.

However there are certain characteristics associated with a certain group of people, especially people that grew up from a certain environment with different cultural values and beliefs. I was inspired to write this article after listening to my Spanish friend and helping him to solve his relationship problems.

Here are few tips on the things you should never do while dating an African woman.

  • Do not take her love for granted.

This is the biggest mistake people make everyday that cost them their entire relationship. Taking her love for granted is one things he might never forgive you for doing. When an African girl is deeply in love with you, she will do anything and may go to any limit to please you.

A couple of men lose it all at this point when they start seeing her as a cheap girl or a desperate girl. She will be all over you and all about you, she will place you in a position where no else comes before you. She will allow you to be the man and be in charge of everything. Do not see anything she is doing for you as a desperate move, don’t think that you are the best or you are the only man in the world.

There is a saying that “You don’t know what you have until it’s gone”. Taking her for granted will definitely put you in this category without even realizing. First, she will move on mentally but you won’t notice because you already took her for granted. By the time you realize it will be too late

  • Do not keep female friends. So many relationships today are suffering from this problem. Your girlfriend or wife should be your best friend, keeping other females is a risky move. Nowadays you cannot trust anyone because a lot has been happening. Keeping female friends around when you are dating or married to an African woman is a sure way of making her feel insecure. Of course spending time with other women will surely make your girlfriend or wife jealous which is the worst feeling for a woman. Women are jealous and funny at times, you may not have intention of dating your female friend but when she sees that you are treating your girlfriend or wife good, she might start imagination herself in that position.
  • Do not disrespect her family members.

Family first! Family is key in every relationship especially when dealing with an African. You cannot have a “serious relationship” without family’s active involvement.Disrespecting her family is the easiest way to lose an African girl as a lover or wife. If her family is against you, it therefore means the relationship cannot get to anything serious hence you need family approval for anything serious.

  • Do not cheat on her.

Cheating is extremely bad in a relationship not just with an African but with any woman out there. Women hate cheaters for many reasons and as a result might not give you a second chance. A saying goes like “Cheaters are liable to lose their relationship”. Cheating on an African woman is one thing you should never consider trying.

  • Do not abuse her.

Abuse in whatever form is a complete turn off for any female anywhere in the world. Physical, mental, psychological, emotional or verbal abuse is something you should desist from while dating an African woman. This will show that you are irresponsible and she will never trust you with her safety. In reality every woman is looking for a man that will protect her and treat her as a family, not an abuser that could harm her at any given time and opportunity.

  • Don’t be mean, rude or arrogant.

Don’t be mean, rude or arrogant to her or others around her. Almost every woman’s goal is to be with a respectful gentleman, someone she can proudly present to the world. Show compassion towards her and others especially in her presence. African women are very careful when selecting a man to settle with, your personality and image is very key and could go along way to decide the future of your relationship.

  • Don’t be too busy for her.

My best friend Ella turned down a marriage proposal from her long time boyfriend for this reason. According to her, she felt like she was in a relationship alone. He would go to work as early as possible, come back from work and spend more time at home working on his laptop. She would go over to his house and end up being alone. When it comes to women, attention is something they don’t play with. If you are not paying attention to her, she will go with the next man that is keeping her mind occupied. Whatever you are doing, do not be too busy for her. Pay attention to her and spend quality time with her.

  • Do not be a yes ma’am man.

Women love stand-up men. The African society places men in a position where they always have to be the man of the house. Being a yes ma’am type of man is a complete turn off for many African women. Take charge, accept your responsibilities and assume your duty as a man. Take control but do not miss use the opportunity

  • Don’t expect her to pay your bills.

There are couple of men out there looking for a woman that will take care of them and pay their bills. Whether she is richer than you, do not expect her to pay your bills. She might hold it down for you when things are not going well with you but do not expect her to be responsible for your bills. This is a complete turn off for majority of the women out there

  • Do not lie to her

Women generally hates lies. A liar is a betrayal, a liar is a snake in a green grass. One thing you should never consider doing to an African woman is lying to her. A good number of women out there might forgive you doing every other thing but may never forgive you for lying to them.

How to make an African woman addicted to you – DateAfrikans

DateAfrikans will help you get your African girlfriend or wife addicted with these simple tips

Asking a girl out and having her accept you is one thing but making her addicted to you is another. Universally, understanding and pleasing a woman is as complicated as understanding the world itself. African girls or women are not different from the rest of the women out there, however there are some unique features about African women and how they perceive love.

African women are difficult to understand and satisfy especially if you are not African or lack adequate knowledge about African women. The complexity of an African woman is actually what makes her unique. Having an African woman as a girlfriend or a wife is the best thing that can happen to any man in the world. The best way you can enjoy an African girl is to have her addicted to you like a drug, that way she cannot be able to live without you.

Again, at this stage she will completely and uncontrollably depend of you emotionally. This tips are valid and has been perfectly working but might not be applicable to every African girl out there. Yes people say women are the same all over the world but that’s not completely true. Here are few tips that will get your African girlfriend or wife glued to you forever

  • Make her your priority. Prioritize her and make her your Centre of attraction. There is no feeling greater than a woman discovering that she is someone’s priority. Her feelings, emotions, physical and mental wellbeing should come first before anything else. Without hesitations, make her your priority and stand your grounds no matter what people say. Any woman in the world will give it all for you if you make her your priority except in rare cases where she is already turned off by you or has something against you. Put her first before anything or anyone else and keep it that way for as long as possible
  • Pay absolute attention to her. The word attention will always pop up anytime you are talking about how to treat a woman generally. Women lovesattention almost more than anything else. Pay close attention to her, whatever she does, what she hates and what she likes. There are things about her that you may never know if you don’t pay close attention to her and everything around her. Paying close attention to her is the only way that you can know her deeply. The information you gather from paying attention to her is very resourcefuland if utilized carefully, you can become the man of her dreams.
  • Work on your self. When it comes to African women, your personality is crucial. Let your personality speak and act for you. With your personality, you don’t have to do or say too much. African women or women generally pays close attention to a man’s personality which also determines the future of the relationship. African women want a man with an awesome personality, a man with a bright future, a man who represents something, a respectful and ambitious man with potentials of become successful. In addition to that, work on your physical appearance. Dress to kill, smell good, get in shape. I remember back in high school and college, the most intelligent boys and good looking guys were always surrounded by girls. Be a stand-up nice looking gentleman and not a yes-ma’am trashy stinking unhealthy one.
  • Have her back 100%. Even the most independent woman on earth depends on her man in one way or the other. Dependence is way beyond just financial implications. The essence of a man and a woman together in a relationship is to complete and compliment each other. Be her backup and support system, let her see you as someone she can always count on and do not disappoint her.Always be available to support her mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, financially etc. Anytime any day anywhere.
  • Surprise her with lots of gifts. African women like any other women love surprises and gifts. My  friend from college  once told me that the easiest way to turn her on is by surprising her with a gift. She sees gift as a valuable token of appreciation. Gift in this context does not necessarily mean something expensive or with a financial value. When you pay close attention to a woman, you will understand her wants and needs. Take advantage and leverage on the things she likes. Some girls like roses, some likes colognes, some likes jewelries, some likes shopping or simply going on dates. You can surprise her with breakfast in bed or any other special treatment. You can surprise her on random days or important occasions in her life such as anniversaries, festivities or special occasions etc.
  • Make romantic love with her as often as possible.This might not be applicable to every African girl but majority of women out there loveand deserves good s*x. This does not solely imply having a large peanut or going for several rounds or lasting for hours. Love making is a complete package and process of intimate s*xual satisfaction. First she needs to be in the mood and completely into it. As a man it is your duty to find her weak spots and capitalize on it, gradually drown her into it without leaving her hanging. Once she is finally satisfied, cuddleher up and repeat the same next time with more intensity.
  • Give her money. Yes give her money anytime you have money. Women loves money. This does not imply that she is materialistic. The truth is money is a necessity for every human whether you like it or not. The African culture places a man in a position of providing for the family so it doesn’t matter whether she is rich. Giving your woman money is a sign of being responsible and considerate of your position as a man in the relationship.Your money is her money and her money is her money unless she decides to make her money your money.
  • Value, Appreciate and compliment her. Appreciating what a woman has done for you and what she is doing for you is something you should never neglect. Women are very sensitive and pays close attention to details.Tell her she is beautiful as often as possible, tell her how much you love her as often as possible, tell her how much you are proud to have her as your Woman. Let her know that you feel lucky having her by your side. Let her feel that you pay attention and acknowledge everything she is doing.Notice the changes on her both physically, mentally, emotionally and the things around her.
  • Always be available and ready to listen to everything she has to say. My friend broke up with her longtime boyfriend at a time when no one expected. We were all curious because none of us expected this and mostly because of how much they loved each other. We did everything possible to get them back together but it was too late. She had already moved on mentally because of negligence. According to what we found out, he was never willing to listen to her and neglected her for so long. Sometimes all she want you to do is listen. She want to tell you everything not always because she want you to do something about it, she just want to let it out because she trust you with her secrets. Always be there and willing to listen

Conclusively, It might seem difficult to understand or please a woman. However, everything will fall in place when you calm down and do your homework as a man. The list here might not be complete so feel free to drop your opinion or experience in the comment box.

Why do people cheat in a relationship?

Today on Date Afrikans we have decided to take a tour towards finding out something very crucial. This might sound like a regular question but there is more to it.

  • Why do people cheat?
  • What is the reason for cheating?
  • What is your personal reason for cheating?
  • What will make you cheat?

We carried out a physical and online research to find out“Why People Cheat” and the various answers will blow your mind. I know you have your own opinion on Why People Cheat or probably have your own personal reason for cheating.

Cheaters are the most creative and hard working people. This is because; cheating is the most difficult game to play. Cheaters live on lies to survive. They live on excuses such as occupation, distance, weather, time etc.

They are very calculative and can take any available chance just to cheat. Some people cheat not because the people they are cheating with are better than their partners. Let’s look at the various reasons why people cheat


Attention is very important in every relationship. Lack of attention can cause a lot of damages to your relationship. A good number of people agreed that they have cheated on their partners because of lack of attention; some went further to say they will cheat and continue to cheat if someone else is paying more attention to them than their partner.


This is one of the major reason why a lot of people are cheating on their partner and will continue to cheat. A good number of people lack the ability to control their sexual urge, they are weak and can only focus on satisfying their immediate sexual desires.


Some people suggested that distance should not be an excuse, but majority insisted that distance can play a role in cheating. Distant relationship is very difficult to deal with, a good number of people cannot be faithful in a distant relationship.

For several reasons, people try to pretend and lie to themselves but deep down they cannot deal with the pressure and cravings of spending time together with someone in real life.


Money can cause a lot of good things and bad things. A lot of people have cheated on their partners because of money; some are still cheating and will continue to cheat for the same reason. Lack of money can push an individual into doing so many things in order to survive or provide


This may surprise you but it is true. There are people out there who can go to any limit and do anything for revenge. So many people especially women admitted that they have cheated on their partners for revenge. Some said that the only reason they can cheat on their partner is if they find out that their partner is cheating on them.


A lot of people blame addiction as the reason and excuse for cheating. Addiction in this instance comes in different forms

Sexual addiction. A good number of people out there are sexual addicts; they can not do without having sex for a couple of days. That means if their partner is not around for a couple of days, they have to cheat in order to satisfy their addiction. Also if their partner is sick or cannot satisfy them sexually, they have to find a replacement

Drug addiction. Drug addicts are also liable to cheat on their partners. A lot of people cannot control themselves when they are abuse drugs. This often results to sexual interactions with whoever is available and willing. Some drugs addicts go as far as raping in order to satisfy their urge

Alcohol Addiction. Alcohol Addiction is also risky and can be a reason for cheating. People who drink a lot of alcohol are liable to cheat on their partners when they are drunk. Everything looks better and brighter when you are tipsy on alcohol.


A good number of people insisted that people cheat because of variety. There are people whose intention is to try every variety such as;

Shape and Size. A good number of people cheat because of shape and size. They want to try different shapes just to have the feeling. A girl confessed that she has slept with a fat guy, a slim guy and a well built guy.

Same thing applies to men; they want to have that feeling of sleeping with a fat lady, a thick lady, a slim lady, lady with a big backside, lady with a small backside, lady with big boobs, lady with small boobs and so on.

Height. A couple of people agreed that people cheat because of height. They want to know what it feels like sleeping with a tall man/woman, they want to know what it feels like sleeping with a short man/woman, they also wants to know what it feels like sleeping with an average height person

Race and complexion. Race is another reason why people cheat on their partners. A good number of people out there want to know how it feels like sleeping with an African, White, Spanish, Asian, Arabian etc. They have cheated on their partners, they are willing to cheat on their partners just to try a different race.Others simply want to have that feeling of sleeping with a dark skinned, light skinned and brown skinned person.


A lot of people are in a relationship today not because they are in love with the person but for one reason or them other they have to continue with the relationship. Their true feelings and heart is somewhere but they are in a relationship with someone else. In some cases people also cheat because they feel like they are not receiving the love that they deserve. They don’t feel loved anymore so they have to look somewhere else


This may sound ridiculous but it’s true. Some people admitted cheating on their partners because they were curious to know what it feels like cheating. A friend of mine told me that he cheated on his wife just to know how it feels like.


This was one of the most interesting points during the various interviews. A large percentage of people insisted that anger can make one cheat on their partner


Truth of the matter is that, people cheat for no reasonable reason.

A good number of men are moved by what they see. The moment they see a lady, they start calculating many things which will lead to a tryout.

A good number of women are moved by what they hear and touch. It’s difficult for them to be interested at first, but they become more interested later on.

You can’t really tell who cheats more in a relationship between a man and a woman. Everybody is born with a cheating tendency; it all depends on your choice.


10 Good Reasons Why You Should Date An African Woman – DateAfrikans


DateAfrikans– When I say African women in this context, I am referring to women born and raised on the continent of Africa or by purely African Parents. The real African Queen not the general black women worldwide.


Dating an African woman is a blessing to any man in the world.

Here are the top 10 good reasons why you should date an African Woman and the benefits of dating an African woman

  1. African Women are very supportive and encouraging

The life of an African woman is designed to support her partner to achieve greatness. If you date an African woman she will push you to be the very best at all costs. The African woman is built on the “We” concept. She will be willing to encourage you and help you to reach your full potentials because she believes that when you are well, she will be well. An African woman will bring out the best in you.

  • African Women have superpower tendencies

African Women are multi-tasking, versatile, powerful, career driven and passionate. They can survive almost anything. The African culture is designed to build a woman into a Queen. Dating an African woman will automatically elevate you and crown you as a king. Every man deserves a woman that compliments him and can represent him anywhere, anytime.

  • Good S*x

I remember a middle aged white man confessing that his African girlfriend almost killed him with good s*x. It has been proven that African women are unbeatable when it comes to s*x, they are extremely freaky, wild and creative. A recent research carried out in America by Date Afrikans revealed that 75% of white adult men prefer African women s*xually, 40% of Spanish men/Latino prefer African Women s*xuallyand 30% of Black American men prefer African Women s*xually. Maybe this explains why African women are the most victims of s*x traff*cking and s*xual exploitation.If you are looking for the greatest s*xual experience you should consider dating an African woman.

  • African Women hardly breakup or divorce once they are committed

African women are not quick to breakup,divorce or give up on someone once they are committed, they rather work things out. African Women always have a way of finding solutions to relationship and marital issues instead of just walking away. They are patient and not quick to take actions concerning their relationship or married. The Africans believe that a woman is a home builder, maybe that explains why Africa is refers to as motherland.

  • African Women are submissive and respectful

One of the main characteristic of an African woman is respect for whoever she is committed with. The African culture teaches women to be submissive to their man no matter how rich or big she is or becomes. As an African woman, whatever you have belongs to your husband and must be consulted before taking any decision. By dating an African woman you will command respect, she will respect you in your presence and behind your back. She will not only respect you, she will have others to respect you because of how she position you.

  • African Women are beautiful In and out.

African women are extremely beautiful. Their Melanin drips and this is way beyond just their physical appearance. Africans sees beautiful as a two sided coin, beauty on the outside which is the physical looks and inner beautiful which has to do with character. African Women are well cultured and have good manners, they are very loving and understanding. You need to try dating an Africanwoman to fully understand the meaning of beautiful in and out.

  • They love healthy, organic food and knows how to cook very well

African Women surely knows how to keep a man healthy and happy. They learn how to cook at a very tender age. As a girl growing up in an African home you have a lot to learn from your mother, aunt or guardian which includes cooking. Almost every African woman assisted their parents in the kitchen while growing up. They start from doing dishes to arranging spices/ other recipes. As a fully grown up woman who is not married, it is your responsibility to take over your mother’s kitchen until you are married to your own husband. By dating an African woman you will always enjoy sweet, healthy, organic home-made food

  • Fertility and reproduction

If you are looking for a mother who can birth you a child, you should consider dating or marrying an African woman. African Women are extremely fertile and always ready to reproduce. The rate of fertility in African societies is very high as compared to others. Africans have the ability of giving birth to many children and still maintaining a perfect shape. If you are not ready to have a child, you should avoid having unprotected s*x with an African woman.

  • You will have a second mother

An African woman will treat you like she is your mother. They are quick to accept responsibilities and will always be by your side no matter the situation. If you are motherless be sure of having a Mom by dating an African woman. She will automatically become your sister, friend, lover and most importantly a second mother.If you have siblings she will become a mother to all of them.

  1. You will inherit a big fun family

African are known for having a big family wherever they are in the world. The important of family in anybody’s life cannot be underestimated. Every African belongs to an extended family made up of a gang of siblings, cousins, nephews, nieces, uncles, aunt’s, godparents and family friends. The African family circle is really big and trust me big family is a lot of fun. By dating an African woman, you automatically have a lot of in-laws to entertain and a lot of social functions to attend.