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Men vs women who cheats more?

This is an unending argument that has been going on for centuries without a valid conclusion. I have listened to people argue on this topic from different perspectives. A good number of women will always argue  in favor of women while a good number of men will always argument in favor of men.

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Who is more faithful in a relationship between a man and a woman?

Last week I got a message from a friend of mine requesting me to join an open debate about this same topic. In order to prepare for the debate, I had to withdraw my personal opinion and instead interview others to see what people generally think about who cheats more in a relationship between a man and a woman. The responses were mind blowing so I decided to put them together in this article. Here is what people had to say.

  • WOMEN CHEAT MORE THAN MEN, BUT MEN HAVE MORE TENDENCIES OF GETTING CAUGHT.

This response came from a number of middle aged African men. They insisted that women cheat more than men. However, it is easier to catch a cheating man but more difficult to catch a cheating woman. A woman who is in a relationship can go as far as checking her boyfriend or husband’s phones regularly, she will follow him up on social media to see who is liking or commenting on his posts and what responses he is giving to them.

She will not stop there, she will go to the extend of following the women on his friend list and comment box to see the activities on the other end. Men on the other hand barely check to see what the woman is doing, and who is following her. Basically woman takes more time digging to see what a man is doing but men don’t usually pay much attention. Sometimes men are too confident that their woman is not doing anything at all.

IT’S EASIER FOR A WOMAN TO GET A NEW MAN BUT DIFFICULT FOR A MAN TO GET A NEW WOMAN

This is another point that continuously appeared in the interviews. A lot of people insist that it’s easier for a woman to get a new man than it is for a man to get a new woman. A lady could walk down the street for 10 minutes and already have many men asking her out. It is almost impossible for a woman to go out for a whole day without having a toaster. But men will have to get a woman’s attention before asking her out. The woman here is placed in the position of approving a man’s request and trust me they have many requests to choose from.

  • MEN ARE NATURALLY POLYGAMOUS

A lot of people especially women believes that men are naturally polygamous and not contented with one woman. Cultures like the African culture and the Islamic religion promotes the idea of polygamy, placing men in a position where they can have more than one woman at the same time. In this case, a man can marry more than one woman at the same time but a woman cannot marry more than one man at the same time

  • THERE ARE MORE CASES OF MEN GETTING CAUGHT THAN WOMEN GETTING CAUGHT.

No evidence no case! Although people tried to justify this point by saying woman are only smarter than men and can dig deeper than men, the evidence still remains that there are more cases of men getting caught on daily basis all over the world.There are more cases of unfaithful men getting caught yearly than women. Logically this means men cheats more than women that’s why you have more men getting caught.

  • WOMEN CHEAT MORE WHILE DATING AND MEN CHEAT MORE AFTER MARRIAGE

A lot of people argued that women cheat more in a relationship before marriage but men cheat more after marriage. Women engage in multiple relationships before settling down but when they finally settle down, they become more committed to one man. Men on the other hand cannot be with only one woman for a long period of time.They have intervals they must have a justifiable reason to cheat such as when his woman is on her period and when she just give birth.

WOMEN MUST HAVE A REASON TO CHEAT BUT MEN CAN CHEAT BECAUSE OF AVAILABILITY

A good number of people argued that a woman must have a reason for cheating. It’s either her man is not satisfying her sexually or financially or sometimes not paying her enough attention, whereas men can cheat because they see a new girl around who is ready to have sex. Men don’t need to have a reason to cheat, they just need space and a girl available and boom they start cheating

IT’S EASIER TO SEDUCE A MAN THAN A WOMAN

A lot of people argued that men have more potentials of cheating because it’s easier to seduce a man than to seduce a woman. All she needs to do to seduce him is to make him see what he wants to see and make him understand that he can have it anytime he is ready. One way or the other he will go looking for it. Meanwhile seducing a woman requires more than just showing her. To get a woman you must set a trap and then convince her to do it. You need to get her in your space and then give her a reason to do it.

WOMEN NEEDS TO BE EMOTIONALLY CONNECTED BUT MEN DON’T

A good number of people also argued that except a woman is a prostitute or doing it as a form of revenge, she must be emotionally connected in order to cheat but men can do it without any emotionally connecting. A woman who truly loves her man will never cheat on him except at gun point but a man can love his woman and still cheat on her for no reason

MEN ARE JUSTIFIED FOR CHEATING BUT WOMAN ARE JUDGED FOR CHEATING

One of the major points that kept rotating throughout the debate is how men are justified for cheating but women are crucified. The society places men in a position where they can cheat and get vindicated for being a man whereas a woman is judged for doing the same thing. This is definitely looking toward gender inequality where men are given the upper hand to think and feel that everything they do is right, but at the same time it’s wrong for a woman to do the same thing.

A WOMAN HAS LIMITED TIME AND OPPORTUNITIES AS COMPARED TO MEN

In as much as a lot of men tried to discredit this point, it was able to stand the test of time. A lot of people argued that a woman is limited by nature. She has at least 3 to 5 days monthly where she is on her period, then she becomes unattractive when she is pregnant and cannot have anything to do with a man immediately after giving birth. A man on the other hand is not in anyway limited by nature. Few men argued that a woman can take on more men in a single day than a man can take on women in a single day.

MEN ARE MORE REPRODUCTIVE THAN WOMEN

Biologically, men are one million times more reproductive than women. Naturally a man can reproduce everyday for as long as he lives but a woman and can only give birth once in 9 months with a limited time of less than 50 years before menopause. This gives men more opportunities to cheat for as long as possible.

A WOMAN NEED A MAN TO ASK HER OUT

This is one of the points that was heavily criticized by a lot of men and women. Generally, in most societies it is the duty of the man to ask a woman out. However a lot of people argued that time has changed but the fact still remains that a man has to be the man. A good number of people argued that women cheats less than men due to the fact that they need a man to ask them out. It is easier for a man to go for what he want than it is for a woman. In most cases women have to wait and only give signs to signal the man. In this opinion, it is more complicated for a woman to go for what she wants than it is for a man

THERE ARE MORE FEMALE PROSTITUTE

A good number of people insisted that prostitution is a job and should not be included as a relevant point for judgement. However, many prostitutes are dating or married and in most cases their partners are not aware that they are prostitutes. Judging by the fact that majority of the prostitutes are female, it is clear that women cheat more than men.

IN CONCLUSION

After listening to the arguments and points by various individuals, I could not come up with a conclusion on my own. In your opinion and coupled with the arguments above, who cheats more in a relationship between a man and a woman? Feel free to drop your opinion in the comment section and share with a friend let’s see what they think, feel or believe.

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How to identify a husband material

19 signs he’s a husband material

When a woman wants to settle down, she wants to settle where she will be happy and have peace of mind. A lot of women are running into marriages today without taking their time to find out if the man is good enough for marriage. Every man above the age is 18 is qualified for marriage but not every matured man is a good husband material. You may ask yourself this question (s)

HOW DO YOU KNOW IF A MAN IS A HUSBAND MATERIAL?
  • What is a husband material?
  • What is a good husband material?
  • What does it mean to be a husband material?
  • What are the signs he’s the right one?

Going by definition, a husband material is a man you consider good enough to settle down with and spend the rest of your lives together. The major question here is

What makes a man a good husband material?

What are the qualities and characteristics that almost every woman should look out for in her future husband? We have taken our time to research properly on this topic. This article is written based on the opinions of over 100 women globally

Here are the Top 19 qualities and characteristics of a good husband material

IF HE IS INDEPENDENT

Independence isa quality of a good husband material. He doesn’t need to be a millionaire or rich, he doesn’t need to have a fancy place to be qualified as a husband material. He only need to have a place of his own and be able to pay his own bills without depending on his parents or your parents.

If he still stays with his parents, does not plan on moving out soon and depends on them to pay his bills, he’s definitely not a husband material.

A MAN WHO TRULY RESPECT WOMEN

Respect is very important, a man who truly and genuinely respects women is a good husband material. When it comes to settling down with a man, respect should be your top priority. This goes beyond just you, look out for a man who is polite to you and other women out there.

A man who is rude and arrogant to women is not someone you should consider settling down with. A man who uses abusive words to describe a woman, a man who follows multiple porn accounts and chases every female around is definitely not a good husband material.

A MAN WHO ACCEPTS YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE

No human is perfect, we all have our down sides and shortcomings. If he sees you for who you truly are, if he knows and accepts your shortcomings without judging you, he is definitely a good husband material.

He will allow you to be yourself and make you feel comfortable being you around him, because he loves you for who you truly are.

 IF HE PAYS ATTENTION TO YOU

You cannot qualify a man as a good husband material if he doesn’t pay attention to you. If he pays absolute attention to you, if he prioritize you and make you his center of attraction, he is definitely a good husband material. Men pay attention to where their heart is, they pay attention to everything she is doing and notices everything around her

 HE PRIORITIZE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM

If the relationship is important to him, he will prioritize it and keep it first before anything. If the relationship is the most important thing to him, he is definitely a good husband material. Marriage is a serious relationship that requires a lot of efforts to make it work. Find yourself a man who knows the importance of the relationship and is always willing to fight for the relationship

IF HE CARES ABOUT YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS

Family and friends is the most important circle in every individual’s life. One of the most important and best quality of a good husband or a potential husband is how he treats his own family and friends as well as your family and friends. He surely understands how important family is to every individual’s life and how valuable friends are.His family is important to him, how about your family? Does he care about them as a people? Does he treats and consider them his family too? Does he make efforts and try to blend in? A good husband material is that man who is interested in building a good relationship with your family, he accepts, respects, value and treat your family as his.

IF HE IS WILLING TO LET GO OF ANYTHING FOR YOU

This is a very rare quality that you can find in men of today’s world. If he is willing and ready to let go of anything in order to be with you, if he is willing and ready to lose it all and start all over with you, he is definitely a good husband material. How sweet it is to have a man that will chose you over anything? He is willing and ready to let go of everything that stands in his way with you, that shows how valuable you are to him.

IF HE INSPIRES YOU TO BECOME THE BEST VERSION OF YOU

Your husband or future husband should be your greatest inspiration.A good husband material is a man who always pushes you to become the best at all cost.

He loves and accepts you for who you are, but at the same time want you to become the best. The way he lives his life and treats you makes you want to do better for him and yourself.

If he wants you to pursue your wildest dreams, if he wants you to break your bad habits and maintain the healthy lifestyle you have always wanted to live, he is definitely a good husband material.

IF HE IS LOYAL AND HONEST

Royalty and honest are rare qualities to find in an individual nowadays. Honesty and royalty should not be 50/50. It should be majored on 100%. If he tells you the truth about everything, If he doesn’t hide anything from you, if he involves you in everything he is doing, he is definitely a good husband material.

A good husband material is a man that never let his woman feel like she is not good enough for him,  he never put her in a position where she doesn’t know where she is standing with him.

IF HE SHARES SIMILAR CORE VALUES AS YOU

His core values is very important if you are considering to settle down with him in marriage, core values are very essential in every marriage.If he share same vision of the future as you, if he shares same values, moral code, lifestyle as you, he is definitely a good husband material.

Both of you need to be on the same page for your marriage to work. Are you both ready to settle down and get married? Do both of you feel the same about having children? Is he on the same page as you when it comes to making important decisions? If yes, then he is definitely the one.

IF HE COMMUNICATES WITH YOU EVEN WHEN IT’S HARD

Conflicts and disagreements are part of every relationship. The question is how do you handle and resolve these conflicts and disagreements? A husband material knows how to resolve conflicts in a healthy way without things escalating. If he manages to talk to you and tries to solve conflicts, he is definitely a good husband material

IF HE HAS WONDERFUL SENSE OF HUMOR

Women like every other human loves humor. A man’s ability to make a woman laugh is another desired trait and quality of a good husband material. Great sense of humor is very important in a man. If he makes you laugh even if it means being silly to enlighten your day, if he is a good company and can keep you entertained, he is definitely a good husband material

IF HE CONSIDER YOU AN EQUAL

A good husband should consider his woman a life partner. Some men out there consider women as minor the same way they consider kids. If he respects your ideas, thoughts, interest and makes sure he consider your opinions before making any decisions, he is definitely a good husband material.

It could be a big decision like starting a new company, moving to a new city, buying/building a house or a small decision like ordering lunch or where to have dinner. If he considers your input and makes sure that you are part of every decision making, he is definitely a good husband material.

 HE IS TRUSTWORTHY

Trust is a key element in every successful relationship or Marriage. If he never gives you a reason to doubt him or make you feel insecure, if he makes you feel like you can trust him with your eyes closed, he is definitely a good husband material.

IF HE IS COMPASSIONATE

Compassion is another important quality of a good husband material. Every woman deserves a man who can feel for others. If he shows that he cares for you and others, if he is that hero in your eyes, he is definitely a good husband material.

IF HE IS DECISIVE

 A woman should only settle down with a man who is capable of making decisions, not a man that is always sitting on the fence. If he is decisive, he is definitely a good husband material.

IF HE BELIEVES IN HIMSELF

One of the major quality and characteristics of a good husband material is a man that believes in himself. If he is aware of who he is and believes in himself, if he knows what he wants and goes for it, if he is aware of his potentials, he is definitely a good husband material.

IF HE IS EMOTIONALLY MATURED

Emotional maturity is another vital characteristics you should consider why choosing a man to settle down with. If he is matured enough to take charge and responsibilities, if he can own his mistakes and apologize when he is wrong, he is definitely a good husband material.

IF HE IS FINANCIALLY RESPONSIBLE

This is one of the essential qualities that is fast eroding in our current society. Money habits is something you should also consider before settling are own with a man as a woman. Take a good look at how he spends, his debt, his investment, his credit scores etc.

The reason for looking into this is not to see if he is broke or rich. The goal is to see how he spends and manages finance.

IN CONCLUSION

Marriage is one of the biggest decisions an individual can make in life. The goal is to get married and spend the years happily with your spouse. One must select carefully and look beyond physical appearance in order to find lasting relationship.

NOTE The above mentioned characteristics and quality are general features of a good husband material. Different women all over the world have different preference and might have other priorities while choosing a man for marriage.

How to spice up your relationship

15 important tips to spark up and spice up your boring relationship

Things are constantly changing on daily basis; life is becoming more and more difficult every day. In the midst of everything, a spiced up relationship can give you strength and hope to face the world fearlessly.

You can overcome a lot of life challenges when you are naturally happy from the inside. Genuine happiness has become rare in our modern society, the best way to build your comfort zone is by building a spark in your love life.

  • How can you spice up your relationship?
  • How can you build a spark in your boring relationship?
  • What are the 15 important relationship tips to spice up your relationship?

Here are few tips that will help you to build a spark and spice up your relationship

UNPLUG FROM YOUR DEVICES

Our phones, tablets, computers has become our best friends and worst distraction. People tend to pay more attention to their devices than their loved ones. Social media and internet usage is increasing on daily basis with a good number of people becoming addicted to it. There is nothing worse than talking to your partner about yourself only for them to be scrolling down social media

Set a goal to detach from technology and technological appliances. Spend your free time with your partner. The time spent scrolling down your phone or laptop should be the time spent together with your partner. It may sound small but that will do magic.

LEARN AND SPEAK YOUR PARTNER’S LOVELANGUAGE

Every individual is unique and has a different form of communication. People have different ways of expressing themselves. It is very important to learn your partner’s love language. You may love someone with every single cell in your body, unless you convey that love in a way that they will understand, they may never really feel loved or desired

You need to learn how your partner show and perceive love, what means of communication is best suitable for their understanding. Learning and communicating with your partner in their love language can also work magic.

SURPRISE EACH OTHER

It is not doubt that every human being love surprises. Send a bouquet of flowers to your loved one, surprise your lover with a movie ticket, a nice jewelry, a massage, a pedicure or anything.

Surprises must not be big, it could be anything. You already know your partner and what he/she wants, now it’s time to show it. Surprise your partner with what he/she wants.

Surprising your partner with anything is more like reminding them of how special they are to you.

EXPLORE AND DO NEW THINGS TOGETHER

Trying new stuffs with your partner is another great idea if you want to spice up your relationship. Try new restaurants or dishes together, travel to new places together, try cooking together in the kitchen, try a new coffee shop together. You can as well try new sex positions.

Just find a way of trying new things together with your partner. This will build more bound as both of you are spending time together and exploring together.

GO ON SPECIAL DATES

Go on dates as often as possible with your partner. Dates is a great way of reminding yourself of how much you want to spend time with each other outside your home. Go on date nights, go on date to the movies, go to the waterfall, go to a park or any place of importance.

GIVE EACH OTHER SPACE AND SPEND TIME APART

Give each other space and spend some time apart. Allow yourself to miss your partner, allows your partner to miss you. Giving yourself the opportunity to miss each other will make you realize how much you love each other.

Sometimes you don’t recognize how much you care about someone until you’re really miss them. It is hard to appreciate someone when you are constantly around them. Make out time and stay away from your partner, spend time with your friends and family, spend time on your hobbies and allow yourself to feel the excitement of seeing your partner after missing him/her

REVISIT THE PLACE YOU BOTH USED TO LOVE

There are places with great memories that can never be forgotten in a lifetime. Those places are worth revisiting with your partner. You can revisit the place where you met your partner or recreate the first date experience. You can’t live in the past but you can turn back the clock by revisiting old memories.

This will remind you of your feelings for each other and how far you have come with your partner. This experience is more like taking a tour in your memory lane to remind yourself of the beautiful things you have experienced together. This will also remind you that those feelings you had for each other is still alive today

PUT MORE EFFORTS INTO UNDERSTANDING EACH OTHER

Two different individuals can not be the same, think the same way, behavior the same way and react the same way. Even twins are not completely the same with everything.

The best thing you can do for your partner is to support them in the things they love, the major key here is to learn and understanding the things they love. Understanding how your partner thinks, behaves and react is key and a sure way of spicing up your relationship

GET MORE INTIMATE

Intimacy is very important. Find a way to touch and keep direct contact with your partner throughout the day. Get more of that sweet feeling of spending time together with your partner, hold hands while working down the driveway, look into each other’s eyes, kiss your partner as often as possible and involve in romantic love making. There is a huge difference between having sex and Love making. Getting more intimate with your partner will reinforce the feeling you have for each other

ENGAGE IN FUN ACTIVITIES

Engage yourself and your partner in fun activities more frequently. Play games with your partner, Dance with your partner or you can simply play hide and seek. You can go swimming, ice skating, fishing, hiking or simply walking. Fun activities are much more fun when you engage yourself with your partner. The fun you have together will go a long way for the relationship.

LEAVE LOVE NOTES

Love note is one of the oldest practices that is still relevant till today. Technology has taken over with little attention now given to written notes. This is an opportunity for you to remind your partner of how special they are by taking your time to leave a written heartfelt note.

This act will surely reignite the love and romance. It could be sliding a note in their pockets for them to read before going about their daily businesses, or leaving a note on the bed or on the bathroom mirror to start his/her day with a beautiful smile

DO ONE THING YOU WANT YOUR PARTNER TO DO

The truth is, relationship is a two ways street. There is a saying that you have to treat others the way you want to be treated. This is also applicable in a relationship and can be used to spice up the relationship. You have to create what you want and not just wait for it to happen.

If you want your partner to be romantic, you have to lead the way by being romantic. If you want to be served breakfast in bed, why not try to serve your partner breakfast in bed? By doing something for your partner that you want your partner to do for you, you are not only inviting your partner to do it to you, and you are also introducing something new for both of you. This act is a sure way to spice up your relationship.

OFFER TO DO SOMETHING YOUR PARTNER LIKES BUT YOU DON’T

Sometimes it’s all about pleasing your partner and making them feel special. As different individuals, we have difference preferences or choices. You can spice up your relationship by simply offering to do what your partner likes but you don’t. You can suggest a movie that you know your partner likes but you find boring. You can decide to eat your partner’s favorite dish that you never liked.

In every relationship, compromise is key. But how sweet it is to let your partner win without him/her having to compromise? Try to give your partner that satisfaction without them having to ask for it

TRY TO IMPRESS YOUR PARTNER

A lot of people take this for granted; besides your partner loves you so there is no need to impress him/her. That’s not completely true. There is every need to impress your partner every day. He/she will love your regardless but there is more to impressing an individual. Step up your game, dress hot, learn new styles etc. Put in extra work to please and impress your partner.

EAT WITH YOUR PARTNER

Eating with your partner is another healthy way of spicing up your relationship. Have breakfast with your partner, bring lunch to their work place and eat with them or have dinner together. You can go on a dinner date with your partner and enjoy the meal together

Eating together is much more fun than you can ever imagine. You can as well try to feed each other during the meal

Building a spark in your relationship is necessary to keep the fire burning in your love life. Take out your time and not just learn, but also practice the above highlighted tips on how to spice up your relationship.

Thanks for reading and don’t forget to share.

Things you should never do while dating an African girl

A successful relationship is highly dependent on the things you do and the things you don’t. There are things you must do and things you must not do in other to keep a strong relationship. Generally like I said before in other articles, it is very complicated to understand women or have a clue about what they want. Sometimes a woman’s temporary mood is enough for her to make a decision that will last long.

Sometimes the things you think might be the best will turn out to be the worst. For women everything matters no matter how small they seem. Recently a Spanish friend of mine from New York City called me and was complaining about not really understanding an African girl he fell in love with. After speaking with him for a couple of hours I understood that it was lack of understanding. It is true that women globally has a lot in common no matter their race, tribe, country or background.

However there are certain characteristics associated with a certain group of people, especially people that grew up from a certain environment with different cultural values and beliefs. I was inspired to write this article after listening to my Spanish friend and helping him to solve his relationship problems.

Here are few tips on the things you should never do while dating an African woman.

  • Do not take her love for granted.

This is the biggest mistake people make everyday that cost them their entire relationship. Taking her love for granted is one things he might never forgive you for doing. When an African girl is deeply in love with you, she will do anything and may go to any limit to please you.

A couple of men lose it all at this point when they start seeing her as a cheap girl or a desperate girl. She will be all over you and all about you, she will place you in a position where no else comes before you. She will allow you to be the man and be in charge of everything. Do not see anything she is doing for you as a desperate move, don’t think that you are the best or you are the only man in the world.

There is a saying that “You don’t know what you have until it’s gone”. Taking her for granted will definitely put you in this category without even realizing. First, she will move on mentally but you won’t notice because you already took her for granted. By the time you realize it will be too late

  • Do not keep female friends. So many relationships today are suffering from this problem. Your girlfriend or wife should be your best friend, keeping other females is a risky move. Nowadays you cannot trust anyone because a lot has been happening. Keeping female friends around when you are dating or married to an African woman is a sure way of making her feel insecure. Of course spending time with other women will surely make your girlfriend or wife jealous which is the worst feeling for a woman. Women are jealous and funny at times, you may not have intention of dating your female friend but when she sees that you are treating your girlfriend or wife good, she might start imagination herself in that position.
  • Do not disrespect her family members.

Family first! Family is key in every relationship especially when dealing with an African. You cannot have a “serious relationship” without family’s active involvement.Disrespecting her family is the easiest way to lose an African girl as a lover or wife. If her family is against you, it therefore means the relationship cannot get to anything serious hence you need family approval for anything serious.

  • Do not cheat on her.

Cheating is extremely bad in a relationship not just with an African but with any woman out there. Women hate cheaters for many reasons and as a result might not give you a second chance. A saying goes like “Cheaters are liable to lose their relationship”. Cheating on an African woman is one thing you should never consider trying.

  • Do not abuse her.

Abuse in whatever form is a complete turn off for any female anywhere in the world. Physical, mental, psychological, emotional or verbal abuse is something you should desist from while dating an African woman. This will show that you are irresponsible and she will never trust you with her safety. In reality every woman is looking for a man that will protect her and treat her as a family, not an abuser that could harm her at any given time and opportunity.

  • Don’t be mean, rude or arrogant.

Don’t be mean, rude or arrogant to her or others around her. Almost every woman’s goal is to be with a respectful gentleman, someone she can proudly present to the world. Show compassion towards her and others especially in her presence. African women are very careful when selecting a man to settle with, your personality and image is very key and could go along way to decide the future of your relationship.

  • Don’t be too busy for her.

My best friend Ella turned down a marriage proposal from her long time boyfriend for this reason. According to her, she felt like she was in a relationship alone. He would go to work as early as possible, come back from work and spend more time at home working on his laptop. She would go over to his house and end up being alone. When it comes to women, attention is something they don’t play with. If you are not paying attention to her, she will go with the next man that is keeping her mind occupied. Whatever you are doing, do not be too busy for her. Pay attention to her and spend quality time with her.

  • Do not be a yes ma’am man.

Women love stand-up men. The African society places men in a position where they always have to be the man of the house. Being a yes ma’am type of man is a complete turn off for many African women. Take charge, accept your responsibilities and assume your duty as a man. Take control but do not miss use the opportunity

  • Don’t expect her to pay your bills.

There are couple of men out there looking for a woman that will take care of them and pay their bills. Whether she is richer than you, do not expect her to pay your bills. She might hold it down for you when things are not going well with you but do not expect her to be responsible for your bills. This is a complete turn off for majority of the women out there

  • Do not lie to her

Women generally hates lies. A liar is a betrayal, a liar is a snake in a green grass. One thing you should never consider doing to an African woman is lying to her. A good number of women out there might forgive you doing every other thing but may never forgive you for lying to them.

How to get your ex boyfriend back fast

Get your ex boyfriend to love you again

WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO TO GET YOUR EX BOYFRIEND BACK

How can you get your ex boyfriend to love you again? Are you trying to get him back to you? It is very common to miss your ex or want him/her back to you. I understand that sometimes you regret breaking up with your ex partner after having deep thoughts and realizing the mistake(s) that led to the breakup. Whether you broke up with him or he broke up with you, If you still want him back there are few tips I will share with you in this short article that will help you to get him back. Read and pay attention carefully, you must apply each tip correctly in order to achieve your result

Tips on how to get your ex boyfriend back in a relationship and have him go crazy about you again. Here is what and what you should do

  • Give him space and get your head together

The first thing you should do is to give him enough space. Instead of chasing him up and down, bugging him with multiple calls and text messages, give him some space and take your time to prepare for what to do. Before approaching him you need to plan your game carefully. Men are simple and straightforward unlike females.Giving him time is very relevant and the first step to take.

  • Find the problem that led to the breakup

Did you broke up with him or he broke up with you? What led to the breakup? Did you cheat on him? Was he complaining about something that he wasn’t comfortable with? Was it because of someone or something in particular? There is a reason for every breakup. The reason for the breakup can also provide the solution. Take your time and carefully reflect on what went wrong. You have to be completely honest to yourself, leaves blames behind and tell yourself the truth. If you don’t do it right at this stage, it may be difficult for you to succeed. You must identify the cause in order to provide a solution

  • Plan a solution for the problem

After finding the problem, you need to plan how to solve the problem. The main thing  revolves around the problem that led to the breakup and how to solve the problem. How can you solve the problem? What is the best solution to the problem? It is obvious that without a solution the problem will continue which means it’s impossible for him to come back. Even if he was the one at fault, you are the one trying to get back with him so you have to provide the solution. How do you plan to solve the problem? The solution to the problem is the main key to get him back to you

  • Find a way to get his attention without looking desperate

Now with your solution you are ready for discussion. After breakup a lot of people get in their feelings so they do everything possible to avoid their ex. Getting his attention might be a little bit difficult but that’s when you are not doing it right. Don’t try to get his attention with phone calls and text messages. Look out for the things he like and use it to get to him. Often visit places he likes to visit and talk to him in person or find someone closer to him who can assist you. It could be his sister, brother,  best friend or parent (s)

  • Apologize to him

Apologizing to him is very important. First you have to take responsibility and accept your flaws. Recognize that you were wrong for doing what you did and you regret it. Acknowledge the fact that your actions might have hurt him, then tell him how sorry you are for doingwhat you did. If he did something or you reacted to his actions, admit that you have forgiven him. Ask him for forgiveness and assure him that it will never happen again. Tell him how much you miss him, tell him how much you want him back with you. Also tell him how you plan to solve the problem and stop the situation from happening again.This process may take a little longer because someone people are not quick to forgive. You may have to be patient and try it over and over again with a new approach. You can regret your actions, apologize and ask for forgiveness without really begging or pleading. Do it stylishly with swag but humbleness

  • Regain his trust

He may forgive you and accept you back but regaining his trust is something you need to put in more efforts. Breakups usually comes with a broken trust. You need to make him trust you again, he wants to be sure that giving you a second chance is not a mistake.Desist from everything you are associated with that led to the breakup in the first instance. Stick to the solution you provided and be consistent. This may take a while because it is more difficult trusting someone again after an incidence. You must understand that regaining trust is a process and might take some time. He needs to be sure or be assured that you are serious and not back to hurt him once more

Make him want you again

Some people move on real fast after a breakup. Getting him back is more like starting all of and building from the scratch. Don’t think that things will automatically go back to how it were before the breakup. To be honest it’s more difficult getting him to want you again after a breakup up.

How do you make your boyfriend want you again after makeup? There are few things you can do to make him want you again

  • Look Good All times

It has been proven that men are moved by what they see. Looking good is a sure way to make him want you again. Take shower as often as possible, dress nice, use good deodorants, make your hair, fix your nails, fix your lashes and do your makeup. Always make sure you appear nice and more frequently in his eyes. You can wear things that reveal your full shape while at home with him alone. Don’t come home everyday looking like a great grandma with a ponytail

  • Work on your character

A woman’s character is something that is often underestimated. Your beauty can attract a man but your character is the only thing that can keep him. Take your time and work on your character, avoid the things he doesn’t like and do the things he likes. If there is anything he has been complaining about, this is the perfect time to take care of it. Pleasing him is a sure way of making him want you much more.

  • Work on your body

Working on your body is a sure way of making a man want you. Like I said earlier, men are attracted to what they see. You can workout at the gym or at home to stay fit. Treat your skin and look as sexy as you can. Working on your body is very important for many reasons such as building confidence, flexible, staying in shape, becoming more active and more presentable.

  • Work on your mentality

It is very true that a lot of men are attracted to what they see, but real men are more attracted to a woman’s mentality. Work on your mentality, how to reason and perceive things. He will go crazy about you when he notice that you have improved mentally. Place yourself high, think higher and bigger of yourself.

Stay away from bad company

Now that he is back with you and everything is going well, you have to completely desist from keeping bad company. The people you hang around with will have great influence on your relationship. You don’t want to destroy everything you have worked for because of the bad friends around you. Especially if the problem and reason for the first breakup was connected to a friend. Men are very watchful of the friends their girlfriend keeps.Ensure to be careful of the friends you keep.

Communicate with him

Communication is very key in every relationship. A successful or unsuccessful relationship is highly dependent on communication. There is a lot to learn from communicating with your partner especially after coming back from a breakup. Talk to him and ask him questions about the things he likes and the things he don’t, talk to him about the things you like and the things you hate. Talk to him about your feelings and insecurities and make sure you find out about his feelings and insecurities.

In conclusion

It might seem difficult getting your ex boyfriend back with and have him love you again like never before, but that’s only when you don’t know the right things to do. The above tips may not be complete or all you need in order to get your ex boyfriend to love you again. However we have covered the major points that can be of great help for anyone anywhere in the world who wants to get back with their ex boyfriend. Feel free to drop your opinion in the comment section

How to make an African woman addicted to you – DateAfrikans

DateAfrikans will help you get your African girlfriend or wife addicted with these simple tips

Asking a girl out and having her accept you is one thing but making her addicted to you is another. Universally, understanding and pleasing a woman is as complicated as understanding the world itself. African girls or women are not different from the rest of the women out there, however there are some unique features about African women and how they perceive love.

African women are difficult to understand and satisfy especially if you are not African or lack adequate knowledge about African women. The complexity of an African woman is actually what makes her unique. Having an African woman as a girlfriend or a wife is the best thing that can happen to any man in the world. The best way you can enjoy an African girl is to have her addicted to you like a drug, that way she cannot be able to live without you.

Again, at this stage she will completely and uncontrollably depend of you emotionally. This tips are valid and has been perfectly working but might not be applicable to every African girl out there. Yes people say women are the same all over the world but that’s not completely true. Here are few tips that will get your African girlfriend or wife glued to you forever

  • Make her your priority. Prioritize her and make her your Centre of attraction. There is no feeling greater than a woman discovering that she is someone’s priority. Her feelings, emotions, physical and mental wellbeing should come first before anything else. Without hesitations, make her your priority and stand your grounds no matter what people say. Any woman in the world will give it all for you if you make her your priority except in rare cases where she is already turned off by you or has something against you. Put her first before anything or anyone else and keep it that way for as long as possible
  • Pay absolute attention to her. The word attention will always pop up anytime you are talking about how to treat a woman generally. Women lovesattention almost more than anything else. Pay close attention to her, whatever she does, what she hates and what she likes. There are things about her that you may never know if you don’t pay close attention to her and everything around her. Paying close attention to her is the only way that you can know her deeply. The information you gather from paying attention to her is very resourcefuland if utilized carefully, you can become the man of her dreams.
  • Work on your self. When it comes to African women, your personality is crucial. Let your personality speak and act for you. With your personality, you don’t have to do or say too much. African women or women generally pays close attention to a man’s personality which also determines the future of the relationship. African women want a man with an awesome personality, a man with a bright future, a man who represents something, a respectful and ambitious man with potentials of become successful. In addition to that, work on your physical appearance. Dress to kill, smell good, get in shape. I remember back in high school and college, the most intelligent boys and good looking guys were always surrounded by girls. Be a stand-up nice looking gentleman and not a yes-ma’am trashy stinking unhealthy one.
  • Have her back 100%. Even the most independent woman on earth depends on her man in one way or the other. Dependence is way beyond just financial implications. The essence of a man and a woman together in a relationship is to complete and compliment each other. Be her backup and support system, let her see you as someone she can always count on and do not disappoint her.Always be available to support her mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, financially etc. Anytime any day anywhere.
  • Surprise her with lots of gifts. African women like any other women love surprises and gifts. My  friend from college  once told me that the easiest way to turn her on is by surprising her with a gift. She sees gift as a valuable token of appreciation. Gift in this context does not necessarily mean something expensive or with a financial value. When you pay close attention to a woman, you will understand her wants and needs. Take advantage and leverage on the things she likes. Some girls like roses, some likes colognes, some likes jewelries, some likes shopping or simply going on dates. You can surprise her with breakfast in bed or any other special treatment. You can surprise her on random days or important occasions in her life such as anniversaries, festivities or special occasions etc.
  • Make romantic love with her as often as possible.This might not be applicable to every African girl but majority of women out there loveand deserves good s*x. This does not solely imply having a large peanut or going for several rounds or lasting for hours. Love making is a complete package and process of intimate s*xual satisfaction. First she needs to be in the mood and completely into it. As a man it is your duty to find her weak spots and capitalize on it, gradually drown her into it without leaving her hanging. Once she is finally satisfied, cuddleher up and repeat the same next time with more intensity.
  • Give her money. Yes give her money anytime you have money. Women loves money. This does not imply that she is materialistic. The truth is money is a necessity for every human whether you like it or not. The African culture places a man in a position of providing for the family so it doesn’t matter whether she is rich. Giving your woman money is a sign of being responsible and considerate of your position as a man in the relationship.Your money is her money and her money is her money unless she decides to make her money your money.
  • Value, Appreciate and compliment her. Appreciating what a woman has done for you and what she is doing for you is something you should never neglect. Women are very sensitive and pays close attention to details.Tell her she is beautiful as often as possible, tell her how much you love her as often as possible, tell her how much you are proud to have her as your Woman. Let her know that you feel lucky having her by your side. Let her feel that you pay attention and acknowledge everything she is doing.Notice the changes on her both physically, mentally, emotionally and the things around her.
  • Always be available and ready to listen to everything she has to say. My friend broke up with her longtime boyfriend at a time when no one expected. We were all curious because none of us expected this and mostly because of how much they loved each other. We did everything possible to get them back together but it was too late. She had already moved on mentally because of negligence. According to what we found out, he was never willing to listen to her and neglected her for so long. Sometimes all she want you to do is listen. She want to tell you everything not always because she want you to do something about it, she just want to let it out because she trust you with her secrets. Always be there and willing to listen

Conclusively, It might seem difficult to understand or please a woman. However, everything will fall in place when you calm down and do your homework as a man. The list here might not be complete so feel free to drop your opinion or experience in the comment box.

African woman  vs Spanish woman (Latina)

Who is the best lover between African women and Spanish women – DateAfrikans

This debate of who is a better lover between African women or African-American women and the Spanish women also know as Latina has been going on for decades. A good number of people argue on daily basis that African women or African American women are better lovers while others argue that Spanish women or Latina are better lovers. I know you might have your personal  position on this topic but whatever it is, hold on and read to the end and let’s see if you still think the same way.

The answer to this question is however tricky because universally, Women from whatever background or geographical area or race has so much in common. It all depends on her feelings for you and her personality as an individual

I cannot tell you who is a better lover between African/ African American women and Spanish women/Latina but if you are considering dating any of this women, I have something to tell you. There are things you need to understand such as body language and forms of communication as well as other behaviors that will help you to figure out if she is in love with you.

The best way you can find out is to date an African woman or African-American woman and also date a Spanish woman or Latina to make your final judgement. Even at that you might not arrive at a perfect answer.Only one woman cannot represent a whole, you might need to date more and more from different countries and backgrounds to come up with something tangible

I have been with African/ African American women and Spanish women/Latina, I also have a couple of friends dating African/African American women and Spanish women/Latina. In this article I will highlight certain characteristics or attributes generally associated with majority of these women. This may not be applicable to every African/African American woman or Spanish woman/Latina due to the fact that people are not the same.

  • Spanish women/Latina are erotic and exotic.Latina especially the ones from the Caribbean are very erotic and exotic. The culture and environment allows nudity and can be seen as sexiness. Their mode of dressing is tempting and can make a man go crazy especially if you are not used to it. If a Spanish woman/Latina is in love with you, she will go all the way out to look sexy for you. She will make sure your eyes are always fixed on her without blinking. The African culture on the other hand does not encourage nudity and consider such dressings as irresponsible. An African woman who is in love with you might try to look more “responsible” for you as a form of self respect.
  • African/African American women are very enduring. An African/African American woman who is in love with you will endure almost everything in order to please you and be by your side. Spanish women/Latina don’t tolerate bullshit when they are in love. For instance you might cheat on an African woman and get a second chance with her but it will definitely end disastrous if you try the same with a Spanish woman/ Latina. African women are trained to swallow and accept a lot of things but Spanish women are trained to settle for the best
  • Spanish women/Latina are super crazy!Yes you heard me. Spanish women are super crazy especially when they are in love. Do not play with her feelings when she is in love with you. She will fight anyone for you even in the police building or courtroom. When you mess a Spanish girl up, she might break your car windows, burn down the building or do something even crazier. Yes African woman are crazy too but you can’t compare them especially when they are crazy about someone. African women can take a deep breath and hold back
  • Both Spanish women and African women are very respectful especially when you respect them. They will go to any limit to please you to your satisfaction
  • Spanish women/Latina wants a man that is successful or already winning while African/ African American women are more concerned about a man’s potentials of winning. For the Spanish women the current is very important but African women are more about the future.
  • Spanish women/Latina or very touchy and verbally expressive why African women or African-American women express their emotions with actions.

This list may not be complete so feel free to drop your opinion in the comment section and let us know who is the best lovers in your opinion

The influence and effects of family on love -DateAfrikans

Relationship and marriage in African society

DateAfrikan -Family Love: Any serious relationship with an African requires family approval especially if the relationship is leading to marriage. Family is an integral part of marriage in the African culture.The African culture and tradition requires the presence of Family in almost every major decision that concerns love, serious relationship and marriage. Seeking family approval is the first step for marriage, both families must agree before anything serious can take place. The influence of family on love, relationship and marriage in the African society has great positive and negative impacts. Here is a simple breakdown

Family Approval

Family approval is key in any serious relationship. If one of the families disagree with the decision, nothing can go on. Have you ever wondered why? The answer is very simple. A serious relationship is one that is heading towards something tangible like marriage. However, marriage in the African culture and tradition requires the presence of both families. A man must first introduce the girls to his own family for his family’s approval after which him and  his family will travel to the woman’s family to seek for her hand in marriage. Both the man’s family and the woman’s family must agree on this decision before anything else can take place. Both families take into consideration the following before approving their children to continue with the marriage

  • Family background. Both families must embark on a family background research before approval. They ask questions like where is our in-laws from? Their tribe, clan, religion and sometimes the entire history of the family. They will trace to know recurring family behaviors and traits. Both families dig into past, present and future political, economical, traditional, and geographical statues before making a final decision. This decision in some cases is not based on the love between the man and the woman but the family’s perception

Family Interest Family interest is one of the major factor to consider while discussing the effects of Family on African love, relationships and marriages. The family comes first before anything else. The two lovers are supposed to consider their interest and the interest of their respective families.In some circumstances, family interest overrides the interest of the two lovers intending to get married. The two lovers must take into consideration the following before taking the next step

  • Family’s position. The two lovers intending to get married must consider their family’s take on the relationship.What is your family’s take on the relationship? Are they in support of the relationship or they are against it? At this point the two lovers are not looking at their love for each other but their family’s position. If the family is against the marriage at this stage, it will be difficult for the relationship to continue. If for instance one family is in support and one is against, it is the duty of the family in support to convince the other.
  • Family choice. Some families go as far as choosing a partner for their children. For different reasons, some families choose life partners for their children. Forced Marriage is one of the things that affects Love, relationship and marriage in the African society. There are several cases of parents forcing their children into marriages for their selfish benefits or reasons

Family Support. Family support is very key in every serious African love relationship and marriage. The African traditional marriage cannot take place without the support of both the man’s family and the woman’s family. Traditional marriages are big occasions that must follow a due cultural process requiring both families to participate. The African traditional marriage rites involves the man’s family openly declaring their interest to the woman’s family and presenting the necessary requirements to the bride’s family who in return handover their daughter to the groom’s family. An African traditional marriage cannot take place without the involvement of both families. This explains the crowd at Traditional African marriages where Parents, siblings, extended family members, traditional rulers, family heads,family friends, friends of extended families, well wishers, gossipers, passerby and members of the entire community are present to witness the occasion. The main discussion on the wedding day is between the groom’s family and the bride’s family. In some rare cases, especially in the past, the presence or the groom is not necessarily required.

 Major Decisions. Major decisions revolves around family in African marriages. First, family must approve, support, participate in the process of marriage.Lastly, the future of the marriage can also be decided by the family. The man and woman must consult their respective families before marriage and to an extend the man and his wife must consult their respective families before making decisions after marriage. The entire process of marriage in the African tradition requires active family participation from the start to the end. Some of the decision that requires family involvement after marriage include;

  • Divorce. Divorce in African marriages is complicated especially if the woman is the one seeking for a divorce. It is easier for the man to get divorce but difficult for a woman especially if her husband is not willing to give her the divorce. Traditional marriages are respected but not legally accepted by the state laws until registered with the court in form of Court marriage. For this reason, dissolving a traditional marriage is a decision taken by the man and his family with the woman’s family. In some cases the woman’s family is required to return the bride price and sometimes with other things that was given during the wedding ceremony to the man before he can free the her. The man on the other hand can simply return the woman to her parents if he can no longer continue with the marriage. In a case where a man returns the woman to her parents, he may no longer be entitled to the bride price.
  • Child Naming. Child Naming is not just a decision taken but the man and his wife. The both families must be actively involved or consulted. However, the man and his family has the final decision. Almost every African Child has more than one name, a name or names from grandparents (If they are alive), a name from the father, a name from the mother and sometimes other names from family heads. The child’s last name or surname must come from his/her father’s family. In most cases the child’s last name or surname is taken from his/her grandparents.

Conclusively, Love, Relationship and marriage in the African society depends heavily on family which can cause negative or positive effects. The family you come from, the tribe, religion or geo-political zone you come from can affect and influence your love life, relationship and marriage in the African society.

AFRICAN LOVE BETWEEN  PARENTS AND KIDS (FAMILY LOVE) -DateAfrikans

What is Family Love?

Today on DateAfrikans, this article will expose you to African family love. This might sound weird to you but at the same time it makes more sense than how it sounds. I grew up with my mom and siblings after my dad passed away since when I was less than a year old. My mom never told me for once that she love me or care about me, she never hugged or kissed me.

None of my elder brothers or sisters ever said they love me or cared about me. Trust me this will end disastrous in a Spanish, European or American home. One thing I can guarantee you is that I am the most loved person in my family.

How do you know an African mum, dad, siblings or family members love you?

How do you know your African parents really  loves you?

  1. They will make sure that you are not hungry
  2. They will make sure that your life is not in danger
  3. They will provide you with basic needs not wants
  4. They will protect you against anything/anyone and can use the last drop of blood in their body to defend you
  5. They will brag about you and praise you in your absence
  6.  They will correct you when you are doing something wrong (Well, they might whoop you to correct you)
  7.  You will receive gifts during festivals or celebration seasons
  8.  African parent will show you love by making sure that you are educated even if it means selling everything they have
  9.  He/she will encourage you to work hard and become a better person
  10. They will make crucial decisions only in your interest. Some Africans are not happy in their marriages but they choose to stay because of their kids. They understand how divorce will affect their children’s growth so they rather sacrifice their happiness to build their children. Many marriages among Africans are surviving today because of the children involved
  11. An African parent can lay his/her life down for his/her child to live. A parent that will rather die for you to live is a parent that loves you. They don’t need to say it but you already know based on the experiences you have had with them.
  12. They will connect you spiritually. Your spiritual background is likely to be determined by your parents or culture. Some Africans are Christians, Muslims or African ancestral worshippers. Africans generally believes in the existence of God and other higher forces. An African parents that loves you will introduce you to his/her spiritual beliefs. The importance of spirituality can never be underestimated.

How to know if your African children really love you as a parent

  1.  An obedient child. Children that obey their parents or family do so out of Love. Obedience is a way of understanding, respecting and appreciating what someone has done for you. African Children are trained  to respect and obey their parents/family out of love. African parents feel loved when their children obey them. Yes some children respect their parents out of fear of being whooped.
  2.  A child that takes care of his/her parents. You don’t have to  send your parents beautiful text messages to make them feel loved. All they want is a child that will take care of them when they grow older. A child that loves his/her parents will start making efforts at a tender age. A child that is willing to take family responsibilities is a child that loves the family.
  3.  A child that assists his/her parents. Assistance is very important and can go a long way to symbolize love in Africa. A child that is always willing to assist his/her parent(s) is definitely doing it out of love. A child that helps in the kitchen, on the farm, at home etc. Is a child that love his/her parents. Pay their loans when you have some money, provide for them like they did for you.
  4. A child that protects family interest. Africans believe in family over anything else. Family’s interest comes first before anything else. A child that loves his or her family will definitely put family first while making important decisions

How to make an African woman happy – Top dating tips

Tips on dating and keeping African women in a relationship

Dating or marrying an African woman is the greatest thing that can happen to any man on earth. Women has been tagged as being complicated and hard to please or even understand. Understanding a woman might be difficult but generally women have a lot of things in common. African women are special and deserves a special treatment. Once you understand the important tips on how to make an African woman happy, your relationship will never be the same

In this article I will share tips in how to keep your African woman happy in a relationship

  1. Pay attention to her

Women love attention and can be extremely jealous and might even lose interest if you are not paying attention to her. Make her your Centre of attraction, pay attention to details and everything around her. Like every other woman, an African woman will give it all for you if you are attentive and always ready to pay attention to her. Whatever you are doing for her or giving to her, if the attention is missing she will definitely lose interest.  Sometimes she just want to be assured that you are paying attention to her and no one else.

  •  Appreciate her

Appreciating a woman can work like magic.  A woman wants to know that her efforts is genuinely appreciated. Appreciating an African woman or any other woman will encourage her to do more. When she take a whole day to dress and do her makeup in order tolook beautiful for you, all she want you to do is appreciate what you see. If she takes her time to prepare a meal for you, even if that’s not the most delicious meal you have ever had, Just give her that satisfaction that she is the best cook. Always let her know that you appreciate everything she did and everything she is doing.

  • Always be there for you

This is something that a lot of men take for granted everyday in their relationship.Sometimes she just want to know that you are there for her. Even if you don’t have anything to say, just listen to her. Make her feel like you are there and will always be there for her. She will open up to you if she is in love with you, she will talk to you about her insecurities, her personal problems, her family problem, her business and almost everything about her. Sometimes she is not expecting you to say or do anything extra, she just want you to listen and always be willing to listen to her. Let her share her entire world with you comfortably.

  • Surprise her

Women love surprises! Yes you hear me. Women love surprises to an extend that some of them go to the extend of paying for stuffs and acting surprised. The truth is for what ever reason, women love and will always love surprises. Surprise her with a gift, surprise on a date, surprise her with money or anything she likes. Surprising a woman is more like giving her assurance and recognizing her presence. It must not be anything big. The funny part is most times the things that mean a lot to women are minor stuffs.

  • Love and respect her family

Women don’t just with their families. Whether she is black, Spanish, white or Asian, Women don’t joke with their families. If a woman is committed to you she will ensure that you are accepted and we’ll respected in her family. Her family is always your second home an can count on them. You cannot be in a serious relationship with an African woman without the knowledge of her family, not to even talk or think of marriage. Her family must accept and approve you to be part of their family.

  • See her as a partner

Some communities place women are second class citizen and in some cases reduced to the level of being compared to kids. A woman is not a minor or a mere additional. A woman is a partner, someone that complete you as a man. The African culture places women in a higher place therefore, they consider equity more than equality. She doesn’t to be equal to you, she just wants to be cared for, given and chance and provided with her needs. Let her know that her ideas, opinions and suggestions are as important as yours.Give her the impression that she matters, her opinions and ideas matters, everything about her matters.

  • Your money is her money and her money is her money

This is something you need to be aware of in order to live happily with an African woman. You need to understand that women love money and always wants to have more of it.  If she need something like shoes, she wants to buy it with your Money or have you buy it for her. Don’t expect her to give you money but always expect her to need money from you. Sometimes people misunderstand this concept but let me make it clear. She is not giving you the money not because she is greedy or wants to use it on someone else. She is saving it for when both of you are in a serious situation and cannot provide. Her money is only your money there is a life threatening issue. Women don’t waste their money, they rather waste yours on their wants but keep theirs for unavoidable needs.

  • Be compassionate

Show compassionate towards her and others.  Women loves kind hearted men and appreciates thoughtful gestures. An African woman want you to have good manners, respect everyone and treat people with love.Be affectionate and courage, don’t be quick to Into conclusion or spill out demeaning words. Just be a caring gentleman lovely romantic man.

  • Support and take side with her

Take side with her in public and correct her in private. Women wants to be sure that you on their side. Whether she is wrong, defend her publicly and correct her when it’s just you and her. She will listen, pay attention and be willing to learn and adjust.

This list is not the complete list of everything you should do to make an African women happy or keep her happy in a relationship. The list is unending but the major points has been highlighted .