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Men vs women who cheats more?

This is an unending argument that has been going on for centuries without a valid conclusion. I have listened to people argue on this topic from different perspectives. A good number of women will always argue  in favor of women while a good number of men will always argument in favor of men.

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Who is more faithful in a relationship between a man and a woman?

Last week I got a message from a friend of mine requesting me to join an open debate about this same topic. In order to prepare for the debate, I had to withdraw my personal opinion and instead interview others to see what people generally think about who cheats more in a relationship between a man and a woman. The responses were mind blowing so I decided to put them together in this article. Here is what people had to say.

  • WOMEN CHEAT MORE THAN MEN, BUT MEN HAVE MORE TENDENCIES OF GETTING CAUGHT.

This response came from a number of middle aged African men. They insisted that women cheat more than men. However, it is easier to catch a cheating man but more difficult to catch a cheating woman. A woman who is in a relationship can go as far as checking her boyfriend or husband’s phones regularly, she will follow him up on social media to see who is liking or commenting on his posts and what responses he is giving to them.

She will not stop there, she will go to the extend of following the women on his friend list and comment box to see the activities on the other end. Men on the other hand barely check to see what the woman is doing, and who is following her. Basically woman takes more time digging to see what a man is doing but men don’t usually pay much attention. Sometimes men are too confident that their woman is not doing anything at all.

IT’S EASIER FOR A WOMAN TO GET A NEW MAN BUT DIFFICULT FOR A MAN TO GET A NEW WOMAN

This is another point that continuously appeared in the interviews. A lot of people insist that it’s easier for a woman to get a new man than it is for a man to get a new woman. A lady could walk down the street for 10 minutes and already have many men asking her out. It is almost impossible for a woman to go out for a whole day without having a toaster. But men will have to get a woman’s attention before asking her out. The woman here is placed in the position of approving a man’s request and trust me they have many requests to choose from.

  • MEN ARE NATURALLY POLYGAMOUS

A lot of people especially women believes that men are naturally polygamous and not contented with one woman. Cultures like the African culture and the Islamic religion promotes the idea of polygamy, placing men in a position where they can have more than one woman at the same time. In this case, a man can marry more than one woman at the same time but a woman cannot marry more than one man at the same time

  • THERE ARE MORE CASES OF MEN GETTING CAUGHT THAN WOMEN GETTING CAUGHT.

No evidence no case! Although people tried to justify this point by saying woman are only smarter than men and can dig deeper than men, the evidence still remains that there are more cases of men getting caught on daily basis all over the world.There are more cases of unfaithful men getting caught yearly than women. Logically this means men cheats more than women that’s why you have more men getting caught.

  • WOMEN CHEAT MORE WHILE DATING AND MEN CHEAT MORE AFTER MARRIAGE

A lot of people argued that women cheat more in a relationship before marriage but men cheat more after marriage. Women engage in multiple relationships before settling down but when they finally settle down, they become more committed to one man. Men on the other hand cannot be with only one woman for a long period of time.They have intervals they must have a justifiable reason to cheat such as when his woman is on her period and when she just give birth.

WOMEN MUST HAVE A REASON TO CHEAT BUT MEN CAN CHEAT BECAUSE OF AVAILABILITY

A good number of people argued that a woman must have a reason for cheating. It’s either her man is not satisfying her sexually or financially or sometimes not paying her enough attention, whereas men can cheat because they see a new girl around who is ready to have sex. Men don’t need to have a reason to cheat, they just need space and a girl available and boom they start cheating

IT’S EASIER TO SEDUCE A MAN THAN A WOMAN

A lot of people argued that men have more potentials of cheating because it’s easier to seduce a man than to seduce a woman. All she needs to do to seduce him is to make him see what he wants to see and make him understand that he can have it anytime he is ready. One way or the other he will go looking for it. Meanwhile seducing a woman requires more than just showing her. To get a woman you must set a trap and then convince her to do it. You need to get her in your space and then give her a reason to do it.

WOMEN NEEDS TO BE EMOTIONALLY CONNECTED BUT MEN DON’T

A good number of people also argued that except a woman is a prostitute or doing it as a form of revenge, she must be emotionally connected in order to cheat but men can do it without any emotionally connecting. A woman who truly loves her man will never cheat on him except at gun point but a man can love his woman and still cheat on her for no reason

MEN ARE JUSTIFIED FOR CHEATING BUT WOMAN ARE JUDGED FOR CHEATING

One of the major points that kept rotating throughout the debate is how men are justified for cheating but women are crucified. The society places men in a position where they can cheat and get vindicated for being a man whereas a woman is judged for doing the same thing. This is definitely looking toward gender inequality where men are given the upper hand to think and feel that everything they do is right, but at the same time it’s wrong for a woman to do the same thing.

A WOMAN HAS LIMITED TIME AND OPPORTUNITIES AS COMPARED TO MEN

In as much as a lot of men tried to discredit this point, it was able to stand the test of time. A lot of people argued that a woman is limited by nature. She has at least 3 to 5 days monthly where she is on her period, then she becomes unattractive when she is pregnant and cannot have anything to do with a man immediately after giving birth. A man on the other hand is not in anyway limited by nature. Few men argued that a woman can take on more men in a single day than a man can take on women in a single day.

MEN ARE MORE REPRODUCTIVE THAN WOMEN

Biologically, men are one million times more reproductive than women. Naturally a man can reproduce everyday for as long as he lives but a woman and can only give birth once in 9 months with a limited time of less than 50 years before menopause. This gives men more opportunities to cheat for as long as possible.

A WOMAN NEED A MAN TO ASK HER OUT

This is one of the points that was heavily criticized by a lot of men and women. Generally, in most societies it is the duty of the man to ask a woman out. However a lot of people argued that time has changed but the fact still remains that a man has to be the man. A good number of people argued that women cheats less than men due to the fact that they need a man to ask them out. It is easier for a man to go for what he want than it is for a woman. In most cases women have to wait and only give signs to signal the man. In this opinion, it is more complicated for a woman to go for what she wants than it is for a man

THERE ARE MORE FEMALE PROSTITUTE

A good number of people insisted that prostitution is a job and should not be included as a relevant point for judgement. However, many prostitutes are dating or married and in most cases their partners are not aware that they are prostitutes. Judging by the fact that majority of the prostitutes are female, it is clear that women cheat more than men.

IN CONCLUSION

After listening to the arguments and points by various individuals, I could not come up with a conclusion on my own. In your opinion and coupled with the arguments above, who cheats more in a relationship between a man and a woman? Feel free to drop your opinion in the comment section and share with a friend let’s see what they think, feel or believe.

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How to identify a husband material

19 signs he’s a husband material

When a woman wants to settle down, she wants to settle where she will be happy and have peace of mind. A lot of women are running into marriages today without taking their time to find out if the man is good enough for marriage. Every man above the age is 18 is qualified for marriage but not every matured man is a good husband material. You may ask yourself this question (s)

HOW DO YOU KNOW IF A MAN IS A HUSBAND MATERIAL?
  • What is a husband material?
  • What is a good husband material?
  • What does it mean to be a husband material?
  • What are the signs he’s the right one?

Going by definition, a husband material is a man you consider good enough to settle down with and spend the rest of your lives together. The major question here is

What makes a man a good husband material?

What are the qualities and characteristics that almost every woman should look out for in her future husband? We have taken our time to research properly on this topic. This article is written based on the opinions of over 100 women globally

Here are the Top 19 qualities and characteristics of a good husband material

IF HE IS INDEPENDENT

Independence isa quality of a good husband material. He doesn’t need to be a millionaire or rich, he doesn’t need to have a fancy place to be qualified as a husband material. He only need to have a place of his own and be able to pay his own bills without depending on his parents or your parents.

If he still stays with his parents, does not plan on moving out soon and depends on them to pay his bills, he’s definitely not a husband material.

A MAN WHO TRULY RESPECT WOMEN

Respect is very important, a man who truly and genuinely respects women is a good husband material. When it comes to settling down with a man, respect should be your top priority. This goes beyond just you, look out for a man who is polite to you and other women out there.

A man who is rude and arrogant to women is not someone you should consider settling down with. A man who uses abusive words to describe a woman, a man who follows multiple porn accounts and chases every female around is definitely not a good husband material.

A MAN WHO ACCEPTS YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE

No human is perfect, we all have our down sides and shortcomings. If he sees you for who you truly are, if he knows and accepts your shortcomings without judging you, he is definitely a good husband material.

He will allow you to be yourself and make you feel comfortable being you around him, because he loves you for who you truly are.

 IF HE PAYS ATTENTION TO YOU

You cannot qualify a man as a good husband material if he doesn’t pay attention to you. If he pays absolute attention to you, if he prioritize you and make you his center of attraction, he is definitely a good husband material. Men pay attention to where their heart is, they pay attention to everything she is doing and notices everything around her

 HE PRIORITIZE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM

If the relationship is important to him, he will prioritize it and keep it first before anything. If the relationship is the most important thing to him, he is definitely a good husband material. Marriage is a serious relationship that requires a lot of efforts to make it work. Find yourself a man who knows the importance of the relationship and is always willing to fight for the relationship

IF HE CARES ABOUT YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS

Family and friends is the most important circle in every individual’s life. One of the most important and best quality of a good husband or a potential husband is how he treats his own family and friends as well as your family and friends. He surely understands how important family is to every individual’s life and how valuable friends are.His family is important to him, how about your family? Does he care about them as a people? Does he treats and consider them his family too? Does he make efforts and try to blend in? A good husband material is that man who is interested in building a good relationship with your family, he accepts, respects, value and treat your family as his.

IF HE IS WILLING TO LET GO OF ANYTHING FOR YOU

This is a very rare quality that you can find in men of today’s world. If he is willing and ready to let go of anything in order to be with you, if he is willing and ready to lose it all and start all over with you, he is definitely a good husband material. How sweet it is to have a man that will chose you over anything? He is willing and ready to let go of everything that stands in his way with you, that shows how valuable you are to him.

IF HE INSPIRES YOU TO BECOME THE BEST VERSION OF YOU

Your husband or future husband should be your greatest inspiration.A good husband material is a man who always pushes you to become the best at all cost.

He loves and accepts you for who you are, but at the same time want you to become the best. The way he lives his life and treats you makes you want to do better for him and yourself.

If he wants you to pursue your wildest dreams, if he wants you to break your bad habits and maintain the healthy lifestyle you have always wanted to live, he is definitely a good husband material.

IF HE IS LOYAL AND HONEST

Royalty and honest are rare qualities to find in an individual nowadays. Honesty and royalty should not be 50/50. It should be majored on 100%. If he tells you the truth about everything, If he doesn’t hide anything from you, if he involves you in everything he is doing, he is definitely a good husband material.

A good husband material is a man that never let his woman feel like she is not good enough for him,  he never put her in a position where she doesn’t know where she is standing with him.

IF HE SHARES SIMILAR CORE VALUES AS YOU

His core values is very important if you are considering to settle down with him in marriage, core values are very essential in every marriage.If he share same vision of the future as you, if he shares same values, moral code, lifestyle as you, he is definitely a good husband material.

Both of you need to be on the same page for your marriage to work. Are you both ready to settle down and get married? Do both of you feel the same about having children? Is he on the same page as you when it comes to making important decisions? If yes, then he is definitely the one.

IF HE COMMUNICATES WITH YOU EVEN WHEN IT’S HARD

Conflicts and disagreements are part of every relationship. The question is how do you handle and resolve these conflicts and disagreements? A husband material knows how to resolve conflicts in a healthy way without things escalating. If he manages to talk to you and tries to solve conflicts, he is definitely a good husband material

IF HE HAS WONDERFUL SENSE OF HUMOR

Women like every other human loves humor. A man’s ability to make a woman laugh is another desired trait and quality of a good husband material. Great sense of humor is very important in a man. If he makes you laugh even if it means being silly to enlighten your day, if he is a good company and can keep you entertained, he is definitely a good husband material

IF HE CONSIDER YOU AN EQUAL

A good husband should consider his woman a life partner. Some men out there consider women as minor the same way they consider kids. If he respects your ideas, thoughts, interest and makes sure he consider your opinions before making any decisions, he is definitely a good husband material.

It could be a big decision like starting a new company, moving to a new city, buying/building a house or a small decision like ordering lunch or where to have dinner. If he considers your input and makes sure that you are part of every decision making, he is definitely a good husband material.

 HE IS TRUSTWORTHY

Trust is a key element in every successful relationship or Marriage. If he never gives you a reason to doubt him or make you feel insecure, if he makes you feel like you can trust him with your eyes closed, he is definitely a good husband material.

IF HE IS COMPASSIONATE

Compassion is another important quality of a good husband material. Every woman deserves a man who can feel for others. If he shows that he cares for you and others, if he is that hero in your eyes, he is definitely a good husband material.

IF HE IS DECISIVE

 A woman should only settle down with a man who is capable of making decisions, not a man that is always sitting on the fence. If he is decisive, he is definitely a good husband material.

IF HE BELIEVES IN HIMSELF

One of the major quality and characteristics of a good husband material is a man that believes in himself. If he is aware of who he is and believes in himself, if he knows what he wants and goes for it, if he is aware of his potentials, he is definitely a good husband material.

IF HE IS EMOTIONALLY MATURED

Emotional maturity is another vital characteristics you should consider why choosing a man to settle down with. If he is matured enough to take charge and responsibilities, if he can own his mistakes and apologize when he is wrong, he is definitely a good husband material.

IF HE IS FINANCIALLY RESPONSIBLE

This is one of the essential qualities that is fast eroding in our current society. Money habits is something you should also consider before settling are own with a man as a woman. Take a good look at how he spends, his debt, his investment, his credit scores etc.

The reason for looking into this is not to see if he is broke or rich. The goal is to see how he spends and manages finance.

IN CONCLUSION

Marriage is one of the biggest decisions an individual can make in life. The goal is to get married and spend the years happily with your spouse. One must select carefully and look beyond physical appearance in order to find lasting relationship.

NOTE The above mentioned characteristics and quality are general features of a good husband material. Different women all over the world have different preference and might have other priorities while choosing a man for marriage.

How to spice up your relationship

15 important tips to spark up and spice up your boring relationship

Things are constantly changing on daily basis; life is becoming more and more difficult every day. In the midst of everything, a spiced up relationship can give you strength and hope to face the world fearlessly.

You can overcome a lot of life challenges when you are naturally happy from the inside. Genuine happiness has become rare in our modern society, the best way to build your comfort zone is by building a spark in your love life.

  • How can you spice up your relationship?
  • How can you build a spark in your boring relationship?
  • What are the 15 important relationship tips to spice up your relationship?

Here are few tips that will help you to build a spark and spice up your relationship

UNPLUG FROM YOUR DEVICES

Our phones, tablets, computers has become our best friends and worst distraction. People tend to pay more attention to their devices than their loved ones. Social media and internet usage is increasing on daily basis with a good number of people becoming addicted to it. There is nothing worse than talking to your partner about yourself only for them to be scrolling down social media

Set a goal to detach from technology and technological appliances. Spend your free time with your partner. The time spent scrolling down your phone or laptop should be the time spent together with your partner. It may sound small but that will do magic.

LEARN AND SPEAK YOUR PARTNER’S LOVELANGUAGE

Every individual is unique and has a different form of communication. People have different ways of expressing themselves. It is very important to learn your partner’s love language. You may love someone with every single cell in your body, unless you convey that love in a way that they will understand, they may never really feel loved or desired

You need to learn how your partner show and perceive love, what means of communication is best suitable for their understanding. Learning and communicating with your partner in their love language can also work magic.

SURPRISE EACH OTHER

It is not doubt that every human being love surprises. Send a bouquet of flowers to your loved one, surprise your lover with a movie ticket, a nice jewelry, a massage, a pedicure or anything.

Surprises must not be big, it could be anything. You already know your partner and what he/she wants, now it’s time to show it. Surprise your partner with what he/she wants.

Surprising your partner with anything is more like reminding them of how special they are to you.

EXPLORE AND DO NEW THINGS TOGETHER

Trying new stuffs with your partner is another great idea if you want to spice up your relationship. Try new restaurants or dishes together, travel to new places together, try cooking together in the kitchen, try a new coffee shop together. You can as well try new sex positions.

Just find a way of trying new things together with your partner. This will build more bound as both of you are spending time together and exploring together.

GO ON SPECIAL DATES

Go on dates as often as possible with your partner. Dates is a great way of reminding yourself of how much you want to spend time with each other outside your home. Go on date nights, go on date to the movies, go to the waterfall, go to a park or any place of importance.

GIVE EACH OTHER SPACE AND SPEND TIME APART

Give each other space and spend some time apart. Allow yourself to miss your partner, allows your partner to miss you. Giving yourself the opportunity to miss each other will make you realize how much you love each other.

Sometimes you don’t recognize how much you care about someone until you’re really miss them. It is hard to appreciate someone when you are constantly around them. Make out time and stay away from your partner, spend time with your friends and family, spend time on your hobbies and allow yourself to feel the excitement of seeing your partner after missing him/her

REVISIT THE PLACE YOU BOTH USED TO LOVE

There are places with great memories that can never be forgotten in a lifetime. Those places are worth revisiting with your partner. You can revisit the place where you met your partner or recreate the first date experience. You can’t live in the past but you can turn back the clock by revisiting old memories.

This will remind you of your feelings for each other and how far you have come with your partner. This experience is more like taking a tour in your memory lane to remind yourself of the beautiful things you have experienced together. This will also remind you that those feelings you had for each other is still alive today

PUT MORE EFFORTS INTO UNDERSTANDING EACH OTHER

Two different individuals can not be the same, think the same way, behavior the same way and react the same way. Even twins are not completely the same with everything.

The best thing you can do for your partner is to support them in the things they love, the major key here is to learn and understanding the things they love. Understanding how your partner thinks, behaves and react is key and a sure way of spicing up your relationship

GET MORE INTIMATE

Intimacy is very important. Find a way to touch and keep direct contact with your partner throughout the day. Get more of that sweet feeling of spending time together with your partner, hold hands while working down the driveway, look into each other’s eyes, kiss your partner as often as possible and involve in romantic love making. There is a huge difference between having sex and Love making. Getting more intimate with your partner will reinforce the feeling you have for each other

ENGAGE IN FUN ACTIVITIES

Engage yourself and your partner in fun activities more frequently. Play games with your partner, Dance with your partner or you can simply play hide and seek. You can go swimming, ice skating, fishing, hiking or simply walking. Fun activities are much more fun when you engage yourself with your partner. The fun you have together will go a long way for the relationship.

LEAVE LOVE NOTES

Love note is one of the oldest practices that is still relevant till today. Technology has taken over with little attention now given to written notes. This is an opportunity for you to remind your partner of how special they are by taking your time to leave a written heartfelt note.

This act will surely reignite the love and romance. It could be sliding a note in their pockets for them to read before going about their daily businesses, or leaving a note on the bed or on the bathroom mirror to start his/her day with a beautiful smile

DO ONE THING YOU WANT YOUR PARTNER TO DO

The truth is, relationship is a two ways street. There is a saying that you have to treat others the way you want to be treated. This is also applicable in a relationship and can be used to spice up the relationship. You have to create what you want and not just wait for it to happen.

If you want your partner to be romantic, you have to lead the way by being romantic. If you want to be served breakfast in bed, why not try to serve your partner breakfast in bed? By doing something for your partner that you want your partner to do for you, you are not only inviting your partner to do it to you, and you are also introducing something new for both of you. This act is a sure way to spice up your relationship.

OFFER TO DO SOMETHING YOUR PARTNER LIKES BUT YOU DON’T

Sometimes it’s all about pleasing your partner and making them feel special. As different individuals, we have difference preferences or choices. You can spice up your relationship by simply offering to do what your partner likes but you don’t. You can suggest a movie that you know your partner likes but you find boring. You can decide to eat your partner’s favorite dish that you never liked.

In every relationship, compromise is key. But how sweet it is to let your partner win without him/her having to compromise? Try to give your partner that satisfaction without them having to ask for it

TRY TO IMPRESS YOUR PARTNER

A lot of people take this for granted; besides your partner loves you so there is no need to impress him/her. That’s not completely true. There is every need to impress your partner every day. He/she will love your regardless but there is more to impressing an individual. Step up your game, dress hot, learn new styles etc. Put in extra work to please and impress your partner.

EAT WITH YOUR PARTNER

Eating with your partner is another healthy way of spicing up your relationship. Have breakfast with your partner, bring lunch to their work place and eat with them or have dinner together. You can go on a dinner date with your partner and enjoy the meal together

Eating together is much more fun than you can ever imagine. You can as well try to feed each other during the meal

Building a spark in your relationship is necessary to keep the fire burning in your love life. Take out your time and not just learn, but also practice the above highlighted tips on how to spice up your relationship.

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Who is the best lovers between African men and white men?

Today on Dateafrikans we shall discuss African men vs white men

Last week I heard a couple of girls debating about this topic on a live broadcast. The panel had 8 women between the age of 25-50.This argument between 3 African/ African-American women, 2 Spanish women and 3 white women was so interesting such that I spent over an hour listening keenly.

At the end I decided to write this article based on their argument and other interviews I had with multiple women across different races. These points are based on personal experiences by these women as well as their friends and family circle.

The bottom line is men are men and will always be men no matter their age, race, national, religion or background. However there are some traits and characteristics attributed to certain category of men particularly from a race, religion or culture.

This argument has been going on for centuries and for the same reason will continue as long as the world continue to exist. Personally I don’t think it’s about Black or White but the individual per se. I know you have your own personal opinion but let’s take a look at the points made during the argument. I selected a couple of qualities and characteristics of men in order to put the arguments in shape.

  • Strength

One of the major points that kept rotating throughout the argument is strength. You might be wondering about the connection between “Love” and “Strength”, well here is the deal. Strength is application mentally and physically in every relationship.

A good number of women argued that African men or African-American men are way more stronger than White men both mentally and physically. Weak people are less likely considerate and can barely support another. African men are emotionally and physically stronger and can carry any weight on their shoulders. Strength as a quality can not be underestimated.

  • Romance.

Romance is another quality that constantly played out. According to the various arguments, White men are way more romantic than African men or African-American men. A couple of women also argued that romance is dependent on the perception of the person at the receiving end.

Both Black, Spanish and White women agreed that African men or African-American men are hardly romantic and partially expressive of their true emotions. Margret insisted that the African way of expressing love is weird and difficult to understand especially if you are not African or does not have someone who can put you down with it.

A White man will always give you roses and tell you how much he loves you as often as possible, he will take you on romantic dates, arrange colorful light and sweet music in the background just to remind you of how special you are to him. African men on the other hand seem cold when in a relationship, they hardly tell you romantic stuffs or give you assurance. They hardly say “I love you” or “I care about you”

  • Support.

One of the qualities that almost every woman is looking for in a man is support. Women deserve emotional, mental, physical, psychological and in some cases financial support. Majority of the women argued that African men or African-American men are way more supportive than White men.

Maybe this is as a result of the African culture where a man is mandated to take care of a woman’s needs. The white communities especially with the idea of “Gender Equality” place men in a position where they don’t necessarily have to support a woman. African men are very supportive in a relationship and can push you as a woman to become the very best.

  • S*x

There was heated argument on this point. The question “Who is better at s*x between African men or African-American men and White men” generated a heated and interesting argument. Many women argued that good s*x depends on various things and can only be majored by the individual woman at the receiving end. Some women prefer it aggressively; some soft and romantic, some with a combination of both while others prefer foreplay. Majority of the women argued that Black men are way stronger and can last longer in bed. Ashanti explained that it is very common to find White and Spanish girls chasing after Black guys all in the name of s*xual satisfaction.

Michelle insisted that she is White and has been with a couple of White and Black guys but she will chose black guys over White guys anytime for s*xual satisfaction. A good number of women alleged that White men are too soft and too weak s*xually. One might say s*x is not a necessary quality of a man in a relationship but 70% of the women I interviewed insisted that good s*x is very important in an individual’s life.

  • Cheating

This was one of the most controversial question throughout the entire argument. Majority of the women argued that Black men or African men have more cheating tendencies because of the African culture where a man can confidently marry more than one woman at a time. According to the arguments, African men are naturally polygamous and most of them are product of polygamy which makes them potential cheaters. The White societies promotes the idea of one woman for one man.

  • Caring

A good number of women insisted that African men are more caring. They are complex to deal with but once you understand them and their value system, they will worship you. White men on the other hand are also caring but not compared to the African folks. The African culture mandates a man to care for his woman, the African society sees a man through his woman.The African society does not portray a woman as equal to the man, the culture portrays a woman as a special being that should be cared for in every aspect

  • Fertility

Fertility received criticisms. A good number of people suggested that fertility should not be among qualities of a good man. However fertility is part of a relationship and most people are not with their partners today for the same reason. If you are considering having a child, an African partner is something you should consider. The fertility rate of White men is not a match to the African men

  • Honesty

Honesty is a special quality and a special way of expressing love. Where honesty fails, heartbreak is unavoidable. The argument on this point suggested that White men and African men share 50/50 on honesty.

African men tell quick lies for temporary pleasure while White men tell lies that can last for centuries and might never be uncovered. On a shallow scale African men are less honest, digging deep White men are less honest.

  • Protection

A good loving man should protect his woman from every harm. A protective man is a man that love and values his woman. According to the arguments African men or African-American men are over protective and can go to any level to ensure that their woman, her family and friends are protected.

You might slap an African Man and get away with it, but when you slap his woman, you may wake up with stitches on a hospital bed. African men or African-American men are way more protective than the White Men.

Conclusively, It is difficult to confidently say “who is a better lover between African men or African-American men and White men”. Love is a universal language that is not attached to a race, tribe, nationality, culture, or an individual’s background. It is much about the Individual.

Now after reading to the end, what lesson have you learnt? What did you agree or disagree with? Who do you think is a better lover between African men and White women?. Feel free to drop your opinion or suggestion in the comment box

Things you should never do while dating an African girl

A successful relationship is highly dependent on the things you do and the things you don’t. There are things you must do and things you must not do in other to keep a strong relationship. Generally like I said before in other articles, it is very complicated to understand women or have a clue about what they want. Sometimes a woman’s temporary mood is enough for her to make a decision that will last long.

Sometimes the things you think might be the best will turn out to be the worst. For women everything matters no matter how small they seem. Recently a Spanish friend of mine from New York City called me and was complaining about not really understanding an African girl he fell in love with. After speaking with him for a couple of hours I understood that it was lack of understanding. It is true that women globally has a lot in common no matter their race, tribe, country or background.

However there are certain characteristics associated with a certain group of people, especially people that grew up from a certain environment with different cultural values and beliefs. I was inspired to write this article after listening to my Spanish friend and helping him to solve his relationship problems.

Here are few tips on the things you should never do while dating an African woman.

  • Do not take her love for granted.

This is the biggest mistake people make everyday that cost them their entire relationship. Taking her love for granted is one things he might never forgive you for doing. When an African girl is deeply in love with you, she will do anything and may go to any limit to please you.

A couple of men lose it all at this point when they start seeing her as a cheap girl or a desperate girl. She will be all over you and all about you, she will place you in a position where no else comes before you. She will allow you to be the man and be in charge of everything. Do not see anything she is doing for you as a desperate move, don’t think that you are the best or you are the only man in the world.

There is a saying that “You don’t know what you have until it’s gone”. Taking her for granted will definitely put you in this category without even realizing. First, she will move on mentally but you won’t notice because you already took her for granted. By the time you realize it will be too late

  • Do not keep female friends. So many relationships today are suffering from this problem. Your girlfriend or wife should be your best friend, keeping other females is a risky move. Nowadays you cannot trust anyone because a lot has been happening. Keeping female friends around when you are dating or married to an African woman is a sure way of making her feel insecure. Of course spending time with other women will surely make your girlfriend or wife jealous which is the worst feeling for a woman. Women are jealous and funny at times, you may not have intention of dating your female friend but when she sees that you are treating your girlfriend or wife good, she might start imagination herself in that position.
  • Do not disrespect her family members.

Family first! Family is key in every relationship especially when dealing with an African. You cannot have a “serious relationship” without family’s active involvement.Disrespecting her family is the easiest way to lose an African girl as a lover or wife. If her family is against you, it therefore means the relationship cannot get to anything serious hence you need family approval for anything serious.

  • Do not cheat on her.

Cheating is extremely bad in a relationship not just with an African but with any woman out there. Women hate cheaters for many reasons and as a result might not give you a second chance. A saying goes like “Cheaters are liable to lose their relationship”. Cheating on an African woman is one thing you should never consider trying.

  • Do not abuse her.

Abuse in whatever form is a complete turn off for any female anywhere in the world. Physical, mental, psychological, emotional or verbal abuse is something you should desist from while dating an African woman. This will show that you are irresponsible and she will never trust you with her safety. In reality every woman is looking for a man that will protect her and treat her as a family, not an abuser that could harm her at any given time and opportunity.

  • Don’t be mean, rude or arrogant.

Don’t be mean, rude or arrogant to her or others around her. Almost every woman’s goal is to be with a respectful gentleman, someone she can proudly present to the world. Show compassion towards her and others especially in her presence. African women are very careful when selecting a man to settle with, your personality and image is very key and could go along way to decide the future of your relationship.

  • Don’t be too busy for her.

My best friend Ella turned down a marriage proposal from her long time boyfriend for this reason. According to her, she felt like she was in a relationship alone. He would go to work as early as possible, come back from work and spend more time at home working on his laptop. She would go over to his house and end up being alone. When it comes to women, attention is something they don’t play with. If you are not paying attention to her, she will go with the next man that is keeping her mind occupied. Whatever you are doing, do not be too busy for her. Pay attention to her and spend quality time with her.

  • Do not be a yes ma’am man.

Women love stand-up men. The African society places men in a position where they always have to be the man of the house. Being a yes ma’am type of man is a complete turn off for many African women. Take charge, accept your responsibilities and assume your duty as a man. Take control but do not miss use the opportunity

  • Don’t expect her to pay your bills.

There are couple of men out there looking for a woman that will take care of them and pay their bills. Whether she is richer than you, do not expect her to pay your bills. She might hold it down for you when things are not going well with you but do not expect her to be responsible for your bills. This is a complete turn off for majority of the women out there

  • Do not lie to her

Women generally hates lies. A liar is a betrayal, a liar is a snake in a green grass. One thing you should never consider doing to an African woman is lying to her. A good number of women out there might forgive you doing every other thing but may never forgive you for lying to them.

How to make an African woman addicted to you – DateAfrikans

DateAfrikans will help you get your African girlfriend or wife addicted with these simple tips

Asking a girl out and having her accept you is one thing but making her addicted to you is another. Universally, understanding and pleasing a woman is as complicated as understanding the world itself. African girls or women are not different from the rest of the women out there, however there are some unique features about African women and how they perceive love.

African women are difficult to understand and satisfy especially if you are not African or lack adequate knowledge about African women. The complexity of an African woman is actually what makes her unique. Having an African woman as a girlfriend or a wife is the best thing that can happen to any man in the world. The best way you can enjoy an African girl is to have her addicted to you like a drug, that way she cannot be able to live without you.

Again, at this stage she will completely and uncontrollably depend of you emotionally. This tips are valid and has been perfectly working but might not be applicable to every African girl out there. Yes people say women are the same all over the world but that’s not completely true. Here are few tips that will get your African girlfriend or wife glued to you forever

  • Make her your priority. Prioritize her and make her your Centre of attraction. There is no feeling greater than a woman discovering that she is someone’s priority. Her feelings, emotions, physical and mental wellbeing should come first before anything else. Without hesitations, make her your priority and stand your grounds no matter what people say. Any woman in the world will give it all for you if you make her your priority except in rare cases where she is already turned off by you or has something against you. Put her first before anything or anyone else and keep it that way for as long as possible
  • Pay absolute attention to her. The word attention will always pop up anytime you are talking about how to treat a woman generally. Women lovesattention almost more than anything else. Pay close attention to her, whatever she does, what she hates and what she likes. There are things about her that you may never know if you don’t pay close attention to her and everything around her. Paying close attention to her is the only way that you can know her deeply. The information you gather from paying attention to her is very resourcefuland if utilized carefully, you can become the man of her dreams.
  • Work on your self. When it comes to African women, your personality is crucial. Let your personality speak and act for you. With your personality, you don’t have to do or say too much. African women or women generally pays close attention to a man’s personality which also determines the future of the relationship. African women want a man with an awesome personality, a man with a bright future, a man who represents something, a respectful and ambitious man with potentials of become successful. In addition to that, work on your physical appearance. Dress to kill, smell good, get in shape. I remember back in high school and college, the most intelligent boys and good looking guys were always surrounded by girls. Be a stand-up nice looking gentleman and not a yes-ma’am trashy stinking unhealthy one.
  • Have her back 100%. Even the most independent woman on earth depends on her man in one way or the other. Dependence is way beyond just financial implications. The essence of a man and a woman together in a relationship is to complete and compliment each other. Be her backup and support system, let her see you as someone she can always count on and do not disappoint her.Always be available to support her mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, financially etc. Anytime any day anywhere.
  • Surprise her with lots of gifts. African women like any other women love surprises and gifts. My  friend from college  once told me that the easiest way to turn her on is by surprising her with a gift. She sees gift as a valuable token of appreciation. Gift in this context does not necessarily mean something expensive or with a financial value. When you pay close attention to a woman, you will understand her wants and needs. Take advantage and leverage on the things she likes. Some girls like roses, some likes colognes, some likes jewelries, some likes shopping or simply going on dates. You can surprise her with breakfast in bed or any other special treatment. You can surprise her on random days or important occasions in her life such as anniversaries, festivities or special occasions etc.
  • Make romantic love with her as often as possible.This might not be applicable to every African girl but majority of women out there loveand deserves good s*x. This does not solely imply having a large peanut or going for several rounds or lasting for hours. Love making is a complete package and process of intimate s*xual satisfaction. First she needs to be in the mood and completely into it. As a man it is your duty to find her weak spots and capitalize on it, gradually drown her into it without leaving her hanging. Once she is finally satisfied, cuddleher up and repeat the same next time with more intensity.
  • Give her money. Yes give her money anytime you have money. Women loves money. This does not imply that she is materialistic. The truth is money is a necessity for every human whether you like it or not. The African culture places a man in a position of providing for the family so it doesn’t matter whether she is rich. Giving your woman money is a sign of being responsible and considerate of your position as a man in the relationship.Your money is her money and her money is her money unless she decides to make her money your money.
  • Value, Appreciate and compliment her. Appreciating what a woman has done for you and what she is doing for you is something you should never neglect. Women are very sensitive and pays close attention to details.Tell her she is beautiful as often as possible, tell her how much you love her as often as possible, tell her how much you are proud to have her as your Woman. Let her know that you feel lucky having her by your side. Let her feel that you pay attention and acknowledge everything she is doing.Notice the changes on her both physically, mentally, emotionally and the things around her.
  • Always be available and ready to listen to everything she has to say. My friend broke up with her longtime boyfriend at a time when no one expected. We were all curious because none of us expected this and mostly because of how much they loved each other. We did everything possible to get them back together but it was too late. She had already moved on mentally because of negligence. According to what we found out, he was never willing to listen to her and neglected her for so long. Sometimes all she want you to do is listen. She want to tell you everything not always because she want you to do something about it, she just want to let it out because she trust you with her secrets. Always be there and willing to listen

Conclusively, It might seem difficult to understand or please a woman. However, everything will fall in place when you calm down and do your homework as a man. The list here might not be complete so feel free to drop your opinion or experience in the comment box.

The influence and effects of family on love -DateAfrikans

Relationship and marriage in African society

DateAfrikan -Family Love: Any serious relationship with an African requires family approval especially if the relationship is leading to marriage. Family is an integral part of marriage in the African culture.The African culture and tradition requires the presence of Family in almost every major decision that concerns love, serious relationship and marriage. Seeking family approval is the first step for marriage, both families must agree before anything serious can take place. The influence of family on love, relationship and marriage in the African society has great positive and negative impacts. Here is a simple breakdown

Family Approval

Family approval is key in any serious relationship. If one of the families disagree with the decision, nothing can go on. Have you ever wondered why? The answer is very simple. A serious relationship is one that is heading towards something tangible like marriage. However, marriage in the African culture and tradition requires the presence of both families. A man must first introduce the girls to his own family for his family’s approval after which him and  his family will travel to the woman’s family to seek for her hand in marriage. Both the man’s family and the woman’s family must agree on this decision before anything else can take place. Both families take into consideration the following before approving their children to continue with the marriage

  • Family background. Both families must embark on a family background research before approval. They ask questions like where is our in-laws from? Their tribe, clan, religion and sometimes the entire history of the family. They will trace to know recurring family behaviors and traits. Both families dig into past, present and future political, economical, traditional, and geographical statues before making a final decision. This decision in some cases is not based on the love between the man and the woman but the family’s perception

Family Interest Family interest is one of the major factor to consider while discussing the effects of Family on African love, relationships and marriages. The family comes first before anything else. The two lovers are supposed to consider their interest and the interest of their respective families.In some circumstances, family interest overrides the interest of the two lovers intending to get married. The two lovers must take into consideration the following before taking the next step

  • Family’s position. The two lovers intending to get married must consider their family’s take on the relationship.What is your family’s take on the relationship? Are they in support of the relationship or they are against it? At this point the two lovers are not looking at their love for each other but their family’s position. If the family is against the marriage at this stage, it will be difficult for the relationship to continue. If for instance one family is in support and one is against, it is the duty of the family in support to convince the other.
  • Family choice. Some families go as far as choosing a partner for their children. For different reasons, some families choose life partners for their children. Forced Marriage is one of the things that affects Love, relationship and marriage in the African society. There are several cases of parents forcing their children into marriages for their selfish benefits or reasons

Family Support. Family support is very key in every serious African love relationship and marriage. The African traditional marriage cannot take place without the support of both the man’s family and the woman’s family. Traditional marriages are big occasions that must follow a due cultural process requiring both families to participate. The African traditional marriage rites involves the man’s family openly declaring their interest to the woman’s family and presenting the necessary requirements to the bride’s family who in return handover their daughter to the groom’s family. An African traditional marriage cannot take place without the involvement of both families. This explains the crowd at Traditional African marriages where Parents, siblings, extended family members, traditional rulers, family heads,family friends, friends of extended families, well wishers, gossipers, passerby and members of the entire community are present to witness the occasion. The main discussion on the wedding day is between the groom’s family and the bride’s family. In some rare cases, especially in the past, the presence or the groom is not necessarily required.

 Major Decisions. Major decisions revolves around family in African marriages. First, family must approve, support, participate in the process of marriage.Lastly, the future of the marriage can also be decided by the family. The man and woman must consult their respective families before marriage and to an extend the man and his wife must consult their respective families before making decisions after marriage. The entire process of marriage in the African tradition requires active family participation from the start to the end. Some of the decision that requires family involvement after marriage include;

  • Divorce. Divorce in African marriages is complicated especially if the woman is the one seeking for a divorce. It is easier for the man to get divorce but difficult for a woman especially if her husband is not willing to give her the divorce. Traditional marriages are respected but not legally accepted by the state laws until registered with the court in form of Court marriage. For this reason, dissolving a traditional marriage is a decision taken by the man and his family with the woman’s family. In some cases the woman’s family is required to return the bride price and sometimes with other things that was given during the wedding ceremony to the man before he can free the her. The man on the other hand can simply return the woman to her parents if he can no longer continue with the marriage. In a case where a man returns the woman to her parents, he may no longer be entitled to the bride price.
  • Child Naming. Child Naming is not just a decision taken but the man and his wife. The both families must be actively involved or consulted. However, the man and his family has the final decision. Almost every African Child has more than one name, a name or names from grandparents (If they are alive), a name from the father, a name from the mother and sometimes other names from family heads. The child’s last name or surname must come from his/her father’s family. In most cases the child’s last name or surname is taken from his/her grandparents.

Conclusively, Love, Relationship and marriage in the African society depends heavily on family which can cause negative or positive effects. The family you come from, the tribe, religion or geo-political zone you come from can affect and influence your love life, relationship and marriage in the African society.

African  love between a man and a woman

Non-Africans or people with lack of full knowledge about African Love between a man and a woman describes it as love based on a man’s ability to provide financially for a woman. In this context, they completely ignore the woman, her value and efforts in a relationship.

Yes African love between a man and a woman is a give and take scenario. However, this is way beyond just financial implications. A relationship between a man and a woman is a collaborative efforts. The African culture places a man in the position of proving for the family while the woman is placed in the position of building the family.

She doesn’t take to squander, she takes to preserve or reserve. If you give an African woman money she will not spend it. She will save it. If she need more she will take more from you and if both of you need to spend, she will have you spend.

The money she is saving is meant for the family and can only come out when there is a basic need. When there is no money to take care of family needs, she will lend the man the money on the terms that he will pay back. Well, even if you don’t pay back she will find a way to get it back. The money she is saving is to start a family business or to be used in times of emergency.

            HOW TO KNOW WHEN AN AFRICAN MAN IS TRULY  IN LOVE WITH YOU

It is very simple to know when an African man is truly in love with you, especially if you understand his form of communication. African men communicates with deep body language, usually with actions rather than voice. His voice might be silent but his actions towards you is his true feelings. Pay attention to what he is doing. He might say less and do more.

Here are few things you should look out for.

  1. He will pay attention to you, everything you do and everything around you. Don’t jump into a conclusion that he is spying on you.
  2.  He will provide everything you need financially, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, sexually and physiologically. The African culture requires a man to provide for his woman. Your primary job to a woman is to provide whatever she needs.
  3.  He will give up anything for your happiness. An African man who is in love with you can go to any extent to please you. He will be ready to lose everything and start all over with you.
  4. African men are very jealous. In some cases his pride might not let you know but deep down he is hurting when you spend time with others. If you are messing with another guy, he might not approach you but the guy on the other end will bear the consequences. First he will give the guy a courtesy warning but you don’t want to exhaust the warning.
  5. He will place you so high in a position where no one can reach you. No other woman can take your place or have anything to say in your face

HOW TO KNOW WHEN AN AFRICAN WOMAN IS TRULY IN LOVE WITH YOU

African women are more interested in your personality and your potentials. I know a lot of people say African Women can choose money over anything but that’s not true. African women love growth, they want someone with potentials to grow. Someone who represents something.

Here  Is how to find out if an African woman is in love with you

  1. She will be interested in everything you are doing. When it comes to an African woman, interest is a keyword. Some people take this point for granted but this is  where you can win or lose it all. If she shows interest in you, everything you do and even what you are not doing, just know she is in love with you
  2.  She will love your family or be interested in your family. An African woman who is in love with you will be interested in your family. She wants to make friends with at least someone from your family. Family is the gate of serious relationships in Africa.
  3. She will push you to grow. Women are better builders than men, she will look at your foundation to see what needs to be done. Basically they want to settle or be with a responsible man. An African woman who is in love with you will make you her business and multiply anything you give her.
  4.  Jealousy is something you should also look out for. An African woman who is in love is super jealous of any other woman having her man’s attention. She may hide her feelings but deep down she is burning.
  5.  She will care about you. African women are very caring, respectful and appreciative. She will care about your health and well being, your financial and spiritual growth. She will shower you with any form of satisfaction and appreciate whatever you can offer.

10 Reasons Why You Should Date An African Man -Date Afrikans

Why should I date an African Man

Why you should date an African Man

Why should a woman date an African Man

Dating an African Man is fun and the happiest thing that can happen to any woman in the world. Whether he is an African living in Africa, America, Europe or anywhere in the world, African men are always the same.

Here are 10 Reasons why you should consider dating an African Man

  1. African men have good manners and a strong sense of chivalry

This is a vital feature that is quickly eroding amongst most home-grown men in America, Europe, Asia and other continents. Although reports suggests that African societies are not progressive when it comes to women’s right’s, women are more cared for in Africa at the same time. The African culture places men in a position where it’s their duty to take care of their woman both mentally, financially, emotionally and physically. African men will pay for the first date, second date etc. and continuously shower you with gifts and love

  • Security and protection

By dating an African Man, you have secured yourself, your family and friends. An African manis very protective and can go to any limit to defend his woman, her family and friends. It is better to get in trouble with the police than mess with an African man’s woman. They understand and are aware of a woman’s needs and can do anything to keep their woman happy and protected. Once they are committed, they become addicted to things that will keep her happy.

  • African men are cold blood hustlers

African is a continent that has been destabilized by many forces, gradually the society has embraced the theory of Survival of the fittest. For one to excel, they must sacrifice a lot extra. Dating an African Man will automatically boost and upgrade your hustler’s mindset. An African Man will encourage you to hustle, support your hustle and at the same time take care of you while you are hustling and after you succeed.

  • Good S*x

One might say “Its not all about the s*x” but one thing is certain, good s*x is something that every woman deserves. It has been proven severally that African men are extremely good at s*x. This probably explains why African men are the most victims of s*x trafficking and s*xualexploitation. A recent research by Date Afrikans in America revealed that 70% of white women prefers African men s*xually, 55% of Black Women prefer African men s*xually and 40% of Spanish women/Latina prefer African S*xually. African men are very energetic, wild and creative

  • They have a more balanced perspective about life

Almost every African knows just how special stability and comfort are. Africa is a continent that has been plaque by “Poverty” and wars, giving Africans a more balanced perspective about life than most Americans and Europeans who are used to a certain comfortable standard of living. African men don’t take life for granted and that’s surely who you deserve to be with as a woman.

  • Entertainment and Fun

Almost Every African knows a good story that has been passed down from generations to generations verbally. One unique thing is, the older the stories get, the more beautiful and versatile they become. Africans are naturally storytellers which makes them fun and entertaining. Dating an African Man is more like having a Cinema, Theatre, Spotify and YouTube combined without paying for any subscription or gate pass. Who doesn’t like African Entertainment?

  • African men are super neat

Neatness is a basic characteristics of the African culture. Looking good and keeping a hygienic environment is very important to African men. They use neatness to impress, attract and brag. If you are visiting an African Man, he will make sure that the house is properly cleaned and the room well arranged. They will ensure that everything is in order. Maybe this is because African women or women generally are attracted to neat men.

  • African men love healthy, organic food and knows how to cook

Eating organic food is a common culture of the Africans anywhere they are in the world. As people who grow food, they learn how to cook at a tender age. Most African men assisted their parents or guardian in the kitchen when they were growing up. As a result, African men develops a habit of eating organic home made nutritious food. They are regarded as the best cooks in the world

  • You and your kids will learn a new language(s) and culture (s)

Language plays a key role in every individual’s life, especially now that the world has become a global village. Africa is a continent with over 3000 languages across the 54 countries with each having a unique culture and almost every African country adopted a second language as a common language during and after colonialism. Therefore, majority of Africans can speak more than one language. By dating or marrying am African Man, you and your children or future children will have an opportunity to learn a second/new language and different culture(s).

  1. Traveling and the big fun family

Almost every African comes from a certain small village with big families. Family in Africa is extended and comprise of many people. Some Africans travelled from their villages to other villages, towns, cities, countries and continents. By dating or marrying an African, you have inherited a big family. By dating or marrying an African you might travel in one way or the way to meet with family members occasionally and trust me Africans have a gang of siblings, cousins, nephews, nieces, uncle’s, aunts, godparents and family friends. By dating or marrying an African you will have a lot of in-laws to entertain and many social functions to attend. One thing is certain, big families are a lot fun. Your kids on the other hand will have so much to play with and learn from

Why do people cheat in a relationship?

Today on Date Afrikans we have decided to take a tour towards finding out something very crucial. This might sound like a regular question but there is more to it.

  • Why do people cheat?
  • What is the reason for cheating?
  • What is your personal reason for cheating?
  • What will make you cheat?

We carried out a physical and online research to find out“Why People Cheat” and the various answers will blow your mind. I know you have your own opinion on Why People Cheat or probably have your own personal reason for cheating.

Cheaters are the most creative and hard working people. This is because; cheating is the most difficult game to play. Cheaters live on lies to survive. They live on excuses such as occupation, distance, weather, time etc.

They are very calculative and can take any available chance just to cheat. Some people cheat not because the people they are cheating with are better than their partners. Let’s look at the various reasons why people cheat

  • LACK OF ATTENTION

Attention is very important in every relationship. Lack of attention can cause a lot of damages to your relationship. A good number of people agreed that they have cheated on their partners because of lack of attention; some went further to say they will cheat and continue to cheat if someone else is paying more attention to them than their partner.

  • SEXUAL DESIRE

This is one of the major reason why a lot of people are cheating on their partner and will continue to cheat. A good number of people lack the ability to control their sexual urge, they are weak and can only focus on satisfying their immediate sexual desires.

  • DISTANCE

Some people suggested that distance should not be an excuse, but majority insisted that distance can play a role in cheating. Distant relationship is very difficult to deal with, a good number of people cannot be faithful in a distant relationship.

For several reasons, people try to pretend and lie to themselves but deep down they cannot deal with the pressure and cravings of spending time together with someone in real life.

  • FINANCE

Money can cause a lot of good things and bad things. A lot of people have cheated on their partners because of money; some are still cheating and will continue to cheat for the same reason. Lack of money can push an individual into doing so many things in order to survive or provide

  • REVENGE

This may surprise you but it is true. There are people out there who can go to any limit and do anything for revenge. So many people especially women admitted that they have cheated on their partners for revenge. Some said that the only reason they can cheat on their partner is if they find out that their partner is cheating on them.

  • ADDICTION

A lot of people blame addiction as the reason and excuse for cheating. Addiction in this instance comes in different forms

Sexual addiction. A good number of people out there are sexual addicts; they can not do without having sex for a couple of days. That means if their partner is not around for a couple of days, they have to cheat in order to satisfy their addiction. Also if their partner is sick or cannot satisfy them sexually, they have to find a replacement

Drug addiction. Drug addicts are also liable to cheat on their partners. A lot of people cannot control themselves when they are abuse drugs. This often results to sexual interactions with whoever is available and willing. Some drugs addicts go as far as raping in order to satisfy their urge

Alcohol Addiction. Alcohol Addiction is also risky and can be a reason for cheating. People who drink a lot of alcohol are liable to cheat on their partners when they are drunk. Everything looks better and brighter when you are tipsy on alcohol.

  • VARIETY

A good number of people insisted that people cheat because of variety. There are people whose intention is to try every variety such as;

Shape and Size. A good number of people cheat because of shape and size. They want to try different shapes just to have the feeling. A girl confessed that she has slept with a fat guy, a slim guy and a well built guy.

Same thing applies to men; they want to have that feeling of sleeping with a fat lady, a thick lady, a slim lady, lady with a big backside, lady with a small backside, lady with big boobs, lady with small boobs and so on.

Height. A couple of people agreed that people cheat because of height. They want to know what it feels like sleeping with a tall man/woman, they want to know what it feels like sleeping with a short man/woman, they also wants to know what it feels like sleeping with an average height person

Race and complexion. Race is another reason why people cheat on their partners. A good number of people out there want to know how it feels like sleeping with an African, White, Spanish, Asian, Arabian etc. They have cheated on their partners, they are willing to cheat on their partners just to try a different race.Others simply want to have that feeling of sleeping with a dark skinned, light skinned and brown skinned person.

  • LACK OF LOVE

A lot of people are in a relationship today not because they are in love with the person but for one reason or them other they have to continue with the relationship. Their true feelings and heart is somewhere but they are in a relationship with someone else. In some cases people also cheat because they feel like they are not receiving the love that they deserve. They don’t feel loved anymore so they have to look somewhere else

  • CURIOSITY

This may sound ridiculous but it’s true. Some people admitted cheating on their partners because they were curious to know what it feels like cheating. A friend of mine told me that he cheated on his wife just to know how it feels like.

  • ANGER

This was one of the most interesting points during the various interviews. A large percentage of people insisted that anger can make one cheat on their partner

  • CONCLUSIVELY

Truth of the matter is that, people cheat for no reasonable reason.

A good number of men are moved by what they see. The moment they see a lady, they start calculating many things which will lead to a tryout.

A good number of women are moved by what they hear and touch. It’s difficult for them to be interested at first, but they become more interested later on.

You can’t really tell who cheats more in a relationship between a man and a woman. Everybody is born with a cheating tendency; it all depends on your choice.

CHEATING IS A HABIT